Monday, December 12, 2011

wonderful things can end

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i have been working the same retail job for four years, and nothing exciting like this has ever happened. i met him on july 9, 2011. i was working my usual shift, helping no one and wasting my time away folding clothes when the most handsome guy walked through my store doors. he said he really needed help, that he was going to a wedding in an hour (ohh men) and he didn't have anything to wear. i graciously said i would offer help to this adorable guy, helping him choose a shirt and tie for his formal affair. throughout the process, we shamelessly flirted and exchanged simple bits of information with each other. he got my name and i got his. i then steamed his shirt, he paid and left. never asking me for my number, i felt silly and confused at the same time. what did i possibly do wrong? we hit it off so insanely well! nonetheless, i got on with my life and came back the following day for another long shift of folding clothes. this time, i was situated in the back room, counting and tagging merchandise, without exposure to the outside world. all of a sudden one of the girls that works with me came back and said, 'hey, your friend is here to talk to you'. now, i have no friends that stop by my place of work out of the blue, so with a puzzled mind i asked her who it was. she replied that it was the guy that came in yesterday looking for the shirt and tie. my heart stopped, my face grew red and before i knew it i was slinking out onto the sales floor after my prince charming. 'so, i'm assuming you have a boyfriend' that's the first line that came out of his mouth when i greeted him. i quickly replied no, and with a shocked face he preceded to tell me how he felt so stupid for leaving without asking for my number, and thought about me the entire time at this wedding. feeling like a thousand butterflies were fluttering about my stomach, he asked to take me to dinner, and i excitedly gave my number and told him i would love that. it was love at first sight, and i was convinced i found the one.

from here on out, things grew beautifully between us. he called me immediately and asked me to dinner. took me to the most adorable tuscan restaurant, and texted me as soon as i got to my car telling me he had the best time and couldn't wait to do this again. i know it sounds crazy, but after that first date i was head over heels, madly in love with a stranger. he was my soulmate, and i had been searching for him for so long.

within the next month, we had a great time. laughed, kissed, grew to knew each other and our families. everything seemed to be too good to be true. and with that being said, it was. things between him and i moved so quickly it was kind of unreal. within two months, things started to go downhill really fast. he wouldn't commit. he begged me to meet his parents, invited me to a wedding that was two months away, and told me that i was the one he wanted to marry. he said i was so different and so perfect, he cannot believe how lucky he was to find me. but, with all this being said, he did not want me as his girlfriend.

i shrugged it off a couple of weeks, but it soon began to eat me away inside. what was wrong with me? why didn't he want me? what was I doing wrong? i became obsessed with trying to figure out what the issue was, and with him being two years younger than i, and a junior in college, i figured it was just his immature age. he kept telling me things just went too fast, and he needed time to think about what he wanted. i let him give me this excuse for a couple of weeks, and then after two and a half months, and countless tears later, i called it quits. here i was, completely in love, with someone who told me he wanted me forever as his wife, and he didn't want me.

sometimes things work out, and sometimes they don't. maybe his and my timing was just off. because i know what we had was unreal. now, i am just happy to have experienced such a feeling of admiration and love....what i learned was that..wonderful things can end, even quicker than they began.

14 comments:

  1. I know how you feel. I met a guy too, in a different way than you, and we fell in love. After a great time he also said he needed time. I gave him his time. And after months waiting, I think it was also about 2 months, he broke up. I cried almost everyday..
    But I know that I can be happy, I am happy, with or without him (:
    I learned a lot too, and I'm greatful for that.

    I wish you the best of luck!

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  2. I did this with a guy for 6 months. he said i was everything i wanted, and that he was happy when he was with me. and i believe that he truly meant it. i waited for such a long time for him to make up his mind. he would kiss me in front of his friends, we talked everyday but still i wasent his girlfriend. its torture. knowing you are everything but still not good enough.

    i found the love of my life a year later. a man who was not afraid to commit. who wanted me to be his right away. and that feeling is so much better. i hope you will find that aswell.

    hanna

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  3. Yeah, the can. But the good thing is that they exist, and that for a glimpse of time, we have the chance to experience.

    It happened to me, and now I know some things that I want in a relationship, and some I don't.

    With time, and when pain goes away, you can just think of it, and, to yourself, smile =)

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  4. I truly hear you girls.. I got that same insane feeling with a stranger I met over night.. What is that? Is it love? Love at first sight? or simply just desire?

    No matter what.. When I think about him.. its just so hard.. I wrote a story about actually.. trying to make it pass..because it hurts so much.

    do you then its because we (girl) over do it? Is this sort of love just imaginary?

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  5. Falling in love with a stranger is so easy. I got lucky, my stranger wasted no time in asking me out (only two days of knowing eachother) and for a blissful month before he went away to Basic Training we were together, then he went off. But I went to his graduation and there, my stranger, asked me to marry him. He's no longer my stranger, but my Fiance.

    @Mary, sometimes, I think we over do it, but it isn't usually our fault. As girls, we are prone to falling in love so easily and so fast, while boys are boys. THey take forever and rarely think about feelings. Mary, love isn't imaginary, it is completely real.

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  6. Very cool. Then, I expect botha youse Upstairs after this finite existence. Shall I see you in Heaven where we'll have a BIG-ol, kick-ass, party-hardy for maaany eons celebrating our resurrection, fulla nekk'n and luuuv'n, drink'n and dancing, magical, hypnotic, renegade, exceeding-the-rules and maaany other, magnificent, wonderFULL things ...?? I hope so. Need proof of the Heavenly luxury? radio-act-V, super-sonic-4D, exceed’n-the-limits? Howsabout you just lookit my profile; lookit ‘MySoulAccomplishment’. God blessa youse -Fr. Sarducci, ol SNL

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  7. I thought I was the only one going through this situation!

    He loves me and says he wants to marry me some day but not right now. And i'm in the process of waiting right now. Waiting for him to say he wants me to be his.

    But i'm not sure that's what I want. All i know is that I love hime.

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  8. This is exactly what happened to me an year ago, and you said it right.. wonderful things can also end even faster than they began.. I hope you find your true love very soon.

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  9. I just ended a relationship yesterday under extremely similar circumstances. I'm grieving and sad, having second thoughts, and not sure what tomorrow is going to look like, but I know I did the right thing.

    I was so impressed with his character and directness from the onset, and surprised at how much he liked me. He brought me home for Thanksgiving, and introduced me to all of his friends and family as his girlfriend. We were so happy and 'normal' until he got scared one day that we were moving too fast. I was patient for the entire second month of our relationship, waiting for him to figure out whatever emotions he couldn't sort through.

    When I ended it, I maintained my integrity and we discussed how it was becoming clear he wasn't ready for a relationship like he had thought he was, and I am. I reassured him that it is okay that we are at different places. I just couldn't let him slowly break my heart and wear down my patience while I waited for him to make up his mind.

    We did the right thing. That being said, and whatever personal growth we've gained, this feeling sucks

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  10. Strange how men are so stupid and blind. Not seeing the best thing in front of them. He didn't deserve you. He should be the one that's grateful for the time he had with you.

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  11. Same thing happened with me too , but this time she was a girl and i am a boy. She already had a boy friend but she never told me , she told me she was all confused ,whom to choose . Because she liked the guys a lot. This is the sign of immaturity.

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  12. wow. same thing happened with me. to be honest, that is common for men to act like that. he wants you and then doesnt want you. they couldnt fucking make up their minds.

    it is a shame.

    xo katrina
    theyoungbridgetjones.blogspot.com

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  13. i am in a similar situation and i just cant get out! i think i love him and he says he likes me but he wants it all to be so simple, but not. dont wanna meet any parents, dont wanna be with friends. Just wanna hang out in his sofa and watch movies and cuddle. and everytime i try to tell him i want more, he thinks i just complicate things and are too demanding.. but i cant get out. i love him. however that is possible when i get absolutely nothing out of it. what to do..

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  14. I Feel The Same Way I Was With My Ex Fiance For 4 Years And Thought I Had Such A Beautiful Relationship Until I Found Out He Was Cheatin, It Broke MY Heart So Badly It's Been About 8Months Sith Out Him I Still Cry At Night..

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