By now, I still believe in the first one. When what you feel for someone is real, nothing is really an obstacle! Because you know that when you are with the one you love, everything is worth it!
The first one :) Although distance is painful it can be done. It makes the days you see them the most memorable <3
definitely the second one!distance ruined my most recent relationship.. and before that distance was the painful reality check for so many sweet encounters.
the second one, there's no doubt about it. The distance is painful and stressful!! Long distance relationship do not work!!!!!
distance wrecks everything.
a little of both. yeah, you don't have to see someone every day to be in love with them but while you're away, that person changes, you change. you both become new people. couples who see each other every day evolve together, they're there for the new haircuts, the new jobs, the new life experiences. distance changes everything but if you're lucky, you can overcome. not to say that it's not hard as hell and super rare, but I believe it can be done, though not statistically supported.
both of them. I'm in a distance relationshion, and yeah, it works out just fine, but also hurts like hell!
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first i have to say sorry for my bad english ;)i believe in both, because i`m in a distance relationship and everything is fine but it hurts so much!!
Definitely the first one. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be and it will happen. And if two people can stay in love while being apart then that means their love is true. <3
The last one, unfortunately. My love lives in Colombia and I live in Sweden it just doesn't work unless you seattle for a skype-relationship which I don't. It's a loose loose situation since I can't be with the one I love nor with someone else.
the first one, IF you are both determined to make it work and you have some sort of end date to the distance. I.e. some sort of plan of when the distance is going to end... you have a change. Unfortunately determination and a plan are no guarantee that you'll manage it. At all. I think you need a little touch of meant to be in there too, for the first one to be true.
I'm getting marry next week and my fiance is from Germany. I live in Australia and we met in Japan. We have to be separated for awhile until we can be a normal married couple. I believe that distance does not hinder our love for each other!
The first :) I am in a long distance relationship. Yes it does hurt, but when you really love the person it's definitely worth it. I am willing to accept the distance, because I know its only temporary and I wouldn't give him up for anything. If you really love each other you can make it work.
If you're in love, distant doesn't matter. "absences make the heart grow fonder".If you think your in love, distant makes you see sense. "It's better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all"
could you help it either way? :(
When you fall in love, there's just no turning back. You have to give it your all or break your heart by letting go of someone who could have been the perfect one. But it hurts like crrraaazzzyyyy. It is one of the most magical and most painful things I know.So my answer is: I believe in both. Avoid distance if you can, if it's possible to not have to go there, then fight to stick together. But if life somehow draws you away, fight to stay holding on. Stay in love. The rewarding feeling should be incredible.
Second, if the one you love more than anything keeps giving up and has to be convinced to fight for your love
Although i agree with the first one, distance does hurt like hell.
i just got out of a long distance relationship. the thing is, we still love each other more than anything in this world, but the distance was slowly tearing us apart. everytime we saw eachother wasnt a celebration of the uniting, it was the fear of the depart. no doubt hes the best thing that ever happended to me, and i miss him at every moment. but my advice would be not to try it girls. you cant imagine the pain. id like to believe that love has no limit. but there is a limit to heartache. and i reached mine.http://sleepnowtiger.blogspot.com/
I would have to choose both. I'm currently in a long distance relationship. We've been together for two years and five months. But out of that, we've been separated for nine months. No doubt it's the hardest thing but I believe if you truly love each other, trust each other and always communicate then everything will work out. We talk everyday, update each other on everything and constantly skype. the good news is that I'll be seeing him in a month or so! The day I see him will be the most memorable. I definitely cannot wait. Distance does hurt but never did I once think about letting him go. He's worth it. :)
Both are true, for me. For ten months I've been in a long distance-relationship. It's never been anything but long distance, so we've had to evolve as a couple and get to know each other apart. Luckily, we get to see each other at least once a month, usually twice. But it hurts and it sucks and if we hadn't had an end date (in june, so yay!) I don't think I could've lasted not knowing when the pain would end.
being in love doesn't mean anything if you are far apart. it hurts so much and it consumes you to the point that you're not living anymore. it's sad but sometimes giving up hope is the best thing you can do if you want to be whole again.
first.coz its me.
I read the last one, and got a bit sad. Distance is painful no doubt about it. But I'm falling for this gut 600km away, we live separate lives and we have never met. But I can't help it, he's so wonderful and caring. He told me yesterday on the phone that he was inlove with me, and then we fell asleep listening to eachother breath.
For the first year of my relationship I've believed in second one: Distance hurts more than anything in this world but now I belive in the first one. My love - Alex - lives in Berlin and me - in Poland but even though we see each other once a month we are still in love as a day when we met the first time. He is waiting for me month by month by whole year in Berlin and didn't fall in love with someone else yet. He loves me, he wants me and still wants to see me every time if I'm coming to Berlin. But I actually think that it depend how strong love is and feelings are.
I believe that a all relashionships, and the ways people feel when they're in love are different, and that no love is the same.. And because of this, I believe in both statements.
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pffff. Distance does not hurt more than anything in this world. If he/she is cheating on you or is not being honest while far away, then yeah that's hard. But, if it really is love (which involves trust) then it makes it easier knowing that he/she loves you no matter what. And keeping in mind that you can see him/her in any circumstance (there is a thing called a car or plane ticket), then that is a comforting thought. If he/she is your priority, then you will do what you can to see him/her before you decide to give it up because the distance factor trumps your love for each other. I love you so much babe. Distance wont be the deciding factor in our relationship.
Love is amazing, especially when it's with the most special person in your life. But, I'm torn between the two. Can't we just say, love is love? I wish it was that easy...
First one. If the distance is a problem, maybe it's not meant to be then? Of course it hurts not to be able to be with the one you love, but I believe that it will work, if we both want it to, and one day we will be together. I mean, it's love. You can't really control who you fall for. It just happenes and then you have to make it work. ♥
I would love to believe the first one, but I can't deny that the second one rings pretty true as well. Sure, distance works for a while if you really love each other, but in the long run I'd say it's impossible to make it work.
If you mix the two you can get close to the truth.'You don't have to see someone everyday to be in love' and 'distance hurts more than anything in the world'.
I agree with bannnnman!!! Missing someone is not an excuse to move on, that is just a selfish statement that means you were not really involved with the significant other at a 100% commitment anyways. Sure distance isn't the warm fuzzy lovey dovey feeling all the time but that is what makes outlasting it so much more valuable to the relationship. I love my girl so much, nothing will stop that. She is the one I will marry and the current distance will be looked back on as a huge learning and growing experience that we shared together. <3!!!!
distance hurts... by now, everything is fine. he's a great guy. but i think i fell in love for a canadian guy... and i'm from Brasil.. isn't a sucks?
Second, by far. In and out of a relationship for six years, solely out due to distance, is NOT a pleasant experience. Distance breeds distrust and jealousy, regardless of how much you love them. Then again, I also don't count a 45 minute or hour drive as distance. Distance is being unable to BE THERE when you're needed. It's being unable to sit together on a couch and watch a movie together more than a week or two every six months or year. There's nothing good about distance, and I would never recommend it.
i believe that love can make everything posible
I was in a Long Distance. :) I still believe in it and no matter what... I'm a fool for holding on, even though she's happily with someone. "If it's meant to be, then it's going to come back." That's something worth while. Enough said. :)I believe in the first. Fight for it. Don't lose hope because really excuses are just a pain. :D
I am in a distance relationship, it's my first boyfriend (i'm 22) and we've been toghether for almost 5 months. It is hard,that's for sure, but is the simple reality of my relationship.You don't have to see someone everyday to be in love. I trully believe on that!Don't lose hope on love!I didn't and i did find my prince charming =)
unfortunately, the second one. the distance destroys the relationship. it's sad, but it's thuth.
i truly want to believe in the first one, but sadly i have enough experience to know that the second one is more true. unfortunately.
Those two statements come hand in hand. But at the same time, I like to remember that I make my own choices and I know what I'm getting into. And if it means that much to me, then distance isn't an issue.
The second unfortunately. I had to deal with a long distance relationship this year and it was the most stressful, hard experience. It takes a lot out of you. We're still together and we're together for the summer, but we're trying to patch up what was ruined thanks to distance. It definitely ruined my relationship, and like it says...it hurts more than anything in this world.
distance does ruin everything! i was in love with my boyfriend and distance separated and now we dont even talk
i dont really know which one to pick. i think that you can fall in love at a far away place. you cant help it..if you do. its kinda like fate..maybe. and i think itll be real beautiful at first. but distance..brings the thoughts of missing someone. and that hurts more that anything in the world. so in the end..when that hole is not filled..the guy or maybe the love of you're life will fade away..not because you want to do it..but because it has to.xoxo eva<3
I believe them both.Distance is a bitch.Loneliness is amplified when, you know you shouldn't really be alone, but you are.Nothing hurts more than lying in bed, wishing that the one you should be with, wasn't on the other side of the globe.It's yearning and wanting and needing...However, that doesn't have to ruin your relationship, because when you realize that the no one else around you measures up to the one you hold so dear, no matter how far away from you they are.... that's when you know nothing is stronger than love.
distance hurts more. distance means not being with that someone and why would you ever want that?
number one even if the comments are depressing.
Wow okay it's like these were put up just for me...
By personal experience I believe in the FIRST one! After 2 years of living far away, me in Finland, him in Italy, we finally live together now. We will live apart again in some moths, but it doesn't scare me. When distance works, it will make the relationship even stronger i think. You get to know each other better when you have to use words instead of physical contact. Also, when being far away you have more time for yourself and things you love but otherwise maybe wouldn't have the time to do. And finally, you discover if the person you are with is truly the one. I don't say long distance is easy, it makes you sad from time to time, but there are plenty of positive sides too. And in the end you WILL live together (at least this is how i continue convincing myself when i get sad) :)
I'm still a teenager and am currently in my second relationship involving distance. And even after believing distance was a cause in the end of my first relationship, i still believe in the first one. I love my boyfriend so much and even though i don't seem him for months at a time, he still brightens my day with texts, emails and phone calls. Seeing each other just makes everything twice as special.
Bannnnnman, Neitzke, Lotta.SO TRUE.
The second one says, that don't fall in love with someone WHO LIVES FAR AWAY. Well, that's true, but what if you shared a town, school & some kind of a relationship and he has to move across the world when you've already fallen for him? He's not coming back because he has to be in sports academy for 3 years. There's really nothing you could do and it hurts even more knowing you once had him.
Being in a long distance relationship is one of the hardest things a couple can face. I was with my boyfriend for 2 years before getting the opportunity to move to London for a year with work. . . it was something I just couldn't pass up and he was nothing but supportive regardless of how hard it would be. I've now been in London for 9 months, and he's in Phoenix. . . it's the most amazing and hardest thing I've ever done in my whole life.Long distance relationships DO work. They're hard and trying, it's definitely far from ideal . . . BUT you can get through it if there's an end point in mind and you're both willing to try. If it's meant to be the distance won't break you.
You would have to be very naive to think anything long distance would work out.
Why so many negative thoughts about long distance? It is a hard decision, it is a hard thing. But why wouldn't it work? Usually the people that are in long distance don't have the other choice and are faced upon decision either to break up or try. I think long distance is trying and it is trying really hard. It probably is a really hard choice. It is not easy decision. It also takes a lot. It might be worth, it might not be.Being in long distance relationship doesn't mean that distance will last forever. I think people that go for it, have a thought of being together after a period of distance. That is what keeps me going.Yes being naive ... but aren't we naive most of times when being with someone?
The first one! Although I am so lucky that I don't have to experience it! My love is by my side almost every day and I wouldn't want it any other way! XO Raspberry & Rougehttp://raspberry-rouge.com
My grandmother always told me that "distance makes the heart grow fonder" and I'd have to agree.The relationship I had with the first love of my life ended shortly after I left to another state, but I would never say that distance ruined our relationship, rather it made all our seemingly unimportant issues surface. To this day, I still love him with my full heart but I cannot say that I wished things otherwise. We could have worked in this distance if he would have tried instead of blatantly objecting.I also believe that distance makes you more grateful for the other person.<3http://adayinthelifeortwo.blogspot.com
the first one wrote someone who is in a distance relationship, and the second wrote someone who is hurt for a distance relationship. When i was in love with my ex boyfriend who lives far I will chose the first, but now i have to chose the second.. :/
After reading most of those comments I can say this as my opinion:- if you meet the person you love before.. and then both of you was separated for a certain reason then it will not going to effect that much as long as there's a hope for you to meet.- you started a distance relation before meeting that person.. then it will effect you as bad as you love more this person.
Distance strengthens strong relationships and weakens those that are not meant to be. Luckily for me, I found one that was meant to be.
Both. It wouldn't hurt that much if there wasn't love. Because of the love it hurts, because of the love you can have a relationship. The second isn't true without the first - and the second is true.
this post...is so true
yeah. if its true love then distance won't matter. :D
The first one. Love can overcome anything...including distance.
the second one!
They are both true. For the people who are saying that you can always conquer the distance "in any circumstance"... that isn't true.I'm 10,500 miles away from the person I love. I haven't seen him for 4 months and have another 6 weeks to wait. And it's costing him 5 months worth of work to get here, and there's no way that I can afford the time or money to get there. So it's nowhere near easy. BUT distance doesn't stop you loving someone. And you can't help who you fall for. x
He was in California and I was in Kansas, and we were fifteen. Had we lived in the same place, and been around each other as we grew up, I think I would have married him, #2.
Both. I know. I have been in love with a guy for 4 years now. He lives 200 miles away from me. I love him, so you dont have to be close to be in love, but still... It hurts. It really does.
Both. You don't need geographic nearness to be in love with someone, you hardly need communication nearness. Still, distance hurts BAD, not more than anything, but it can bild everything else that hurts. When neither of you is capable to be in a relationship by distance, you need to accept that, even though you love each other, all you can have is daily messaging on the computer or on the telephone and your heart needs to be open to real-life relationship, because you know his heart is, and THAT hurts like hell. Believe me, I know.
Despite all the love in the world, if there is no date of reunification, long distance will tear the heart apart. With love, from Los Angeles to London.
Distance sucks. It sucks big time. It truly does. It may work for some but mostly fails for others
in my heart i wish it was the first one, but I am have to say I believe number 2. But I think it also depends on the two people involved, at some point, someone will have to move to where the other person is... or move on
First!! Of course!
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I'd say both. We made it, but it hurts like hell. Still worth it!
Definitely the first!!!! My fiance and I have done long distance almost our whole relationship. It is one of the most hardest things to do and it sucks soooo bad, but when you know there is a end to it, it is worth it!!!! it all depends on the couple though and their communication through it all.
first one. definitely.http://lets-make-believe.blogspot.com/
i'm in a long distance relashionship for about one year and three months. sometimes distance hurts too much, but me and my boyfriend love each other more than anything else. we both know what we really want, and that is: being together. we can only be happy in that way. i believe that love can last forever. if you don't, you should. when you love each other you understand how much you need someone to be by your side. do not lose hope.
the second one in relation to hurt makes you know that there is something there worth holding on to and fighting for."if two people can stay in love while being apart then that means their love is true"well said anonymous couldn't agree more!nice to know there are others who have and are making their relationships work long distance <3
The first one, because I know it's true. Last year I went to a school in another country and I had just met this boy. THE boy. It wasn't planned, but we became more than friends and then I went abroad, but we did it anyway. It was painful sometimes, but we just couldn't end it. We loved each other and we still do!
I'm from Iran and i married with a romanian guy ,and we just met 4 years ago in yahoo360! i just wanted to say we are 2 years happy married ,so for us the first one definitly worked , but also i don't say this will work out for everyone else, when you love someone distance wont be an issue ,but how to know you are in love that will take time and is an issue
Also speaking from experience,I have to say the second. I was with my boyfriend for 6 years - he was in the Army. We saw each other once every month. It was 28 days of loneliness and craving someone and 2 days of happiness when we were together. Eventually, he just couldn't put me through it anymore, he wanted to set me free because he loved me so much he thought I would be happier without him, without the intense sadness that comes with missing someone you love so much. He told me he will always love me and who knows one day maybe our life paths will allow us to be together. It depends on circumstance of course but in this instance distance got the better of us.
The second one. It hurts like hell. Distance certainly makes the heart grow fonder, and in fact I think it is crucial to step out of the bubble of every relationship every now and again. But time spent growing together beforehand, establishing something before being separated, is crucial - and the time apart is still straining if it is more than months at a time, so the time afterwords has to be sufficient to recover and learn each other again. Distance is straining, it wears a relationship thin despite the best intentions and the truest feelings. This, from an optimist and believer in love. You might still love the person you leave behind as you knew them, or be sad to be apart, but as far as relationships go, distance only truly, truly works when the time spent together is sufficient. It depends what you're looking for, I guess. Regardless, it hurts so much to know that distance is the only thing keeping you apart when you love someone.
I believe both of these are true. It does hurt more than anything to be so far away, but it doesn't stop me from loving him.
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true love can overcome anything!! LDRs are not easy, but the love gets us through <3
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Here, I don't really believe this will work.
so very true...
Well distance will not make 2 happy, will make 3 or 4 or 5 or 10 happy... In the second I think that it's not distance directly it's mostly the uncertainty of don't know what's happening.
It can't actually work, I believe so.