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Dear Le Love,
Nearly 3 years ago I lost someone I love. I often read your blog as it gave me peace of mind when I was hurting. I have always wanted to share my story but could never find the appropriate words, or rather the courage. You see, I was waiting for our story to end before I could put it in writing. The thing is, its as if it will never end. This love will never end.
We had that all consuming, passionate, fiery type relationship. And I don't regret it for one minute. You made me feel so warm and safe. It was so fun to be just with you. We were obsessed with one another. Completely and utterly in love. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you
For over 2 years I questioned, cried, analysed and searched for what went wrong. I missed you and I knew you missed me too. That was possibly the worst thing. Why, when two people love each other, can they not 'just be' together?
I could write forever about us but it just brings back the pain. Here's something I wrote after we met for the first time after a over a year of being apart...
'T,
It was like we met all over again. It as the most magical night of my life. And I'm not sure life will ever live up to those moments. It was one of those nights you wish you could pause and relive forever. Time did not exist.
Broken over a year, no physical contact, the worst of friends, lovers that never stopped loving.
We talked as if we knew each other a lifetime, as if nothing had happened. Smiled, laughed, I loved your smile. Those dimples. Your face was so beautiful I just wanted to cry. I love those eyes, even though they show pain.
We went to the beach, the first time we actually got out, instead of just making love in the car. You came around to me. Stood in front of me. We both felt it. The intensity. So many emotions all at once, I wanted to burst. It was so strong, I'd never felt anything as magical as that before. "Well this is intense," you laughed.
You apologized for hurting me, and I too. Our differences and past hurts were demolished so easily. Something that caused so much pain had just disappeared in the blink of an eye. No fighting, no yelling, no anger. Just simple truth. That's how I'd describe that night in one word - truth.
You kissed me, well I kissed you back I guess. All this time I was afraid, afraid that this feeling would not be there as much as I wanted it to. But it was there. Stronger than ever. I didn't want it to end, but I pulled away. My head said stop. We hugged for a while, I love your hugs. A hug that says I missed you, I need you, I'm sorry. I still love you? I'm not sure what it meant to you but it was everything to me.
We stood and listened to the waves as you told me how you had learned a lot about yourself, "I don't think we should go back there... it wasn't working with her and I thought about you the past few weeks... what if we end up falling in love again?"
I said nothing, I was feeling so much at once . What did all of this mean? We kissed again under the moon. Maybe your words meant confusion? But the kiss was something, a feeling that came back or just never went away.
You told me your deepest fears and secrets. You had never opened up that much before. We stood looking at the stars and the sea. Facing each other. Just us, alone, no judgement, just truth. We both knew what we were feeling and It scared us.
I knew the night had to end but prolonged it as much as possible. It was perfection in all its imperfections. I knew something was going to change from that moment on. And it terrified me. This unknown future.
You drove me back to my cousin's. Hugged, and explained how we were glad to be back in each other's lives. "Don't be a stranger" you said. We left our love for now. Maybe I understand you're not ready yet. I will wait.
As time passed I drove myself insane with this new 'friendship' we had. Feelings were never shared, nothing was discussed we just enjoyed each other's time and company. I finally plucked up the courage to tell you how I felt and you explained how you're just not ready. But is there ever a right time? I can never forget those last words you said when we ended, "I wish I met you in a few years."
I believe in the now, in acting on your emotions, in expressing your love and never holding back. I guess it's just something you're not used to. You have so many future hopes and dreams that you forget about the now. I cant force you to see what I see and feel what I feel. I've come to terms with this. I've come to terms with myself. But this relationship is something I cant seem to understand?
I decided to let you go some time ago. I thought it would be the hardest thing to do. But it wasn't. It just made me realise how strong these feelings were. It made me realise that when you truly love someone, you can be without them and love them from afar, and that's what I've done. There's this invisible web that will forever connect us, despite ever really being together. I never owned you, so I never really lost you.
Quite frankly I'm drained and tired of this story. I haven't seen you for some time now. But I know when I do, this love I have will come floating to the surface once more, as it always does.
True love never disappears, it just gets buried away sometimes by life.
You're forever in my heart,
H
Nearly 3 years ago I lost someone I love. I often read your blog as it gave me peace of mind when I was hurting. I have always wanted to share my story but could never find the appropriate words, or rather the courage. You see, I was waiting for our story to end before I could put it in writing. The thing is, its as if it will never end. This love will never end.
We had that all consuming, passionate, fiery type relationship. And I don't regret it for one minute. You made me feel so warm and safe. It was so fun to be just with you. We were obsessed with one another. Completely and utterly in love. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you
For over 2 years I questioned, cried, analysed and searched for what went wrong. I missed you and I knew you missed me too. That was possibly the worst thing. Why, when two people love each other, can they not 'just be' together?
I could write forever about us but it just brings back the pain. Here's something I wrote after we met for the first time after a over a year of being apart...
'T,
It was like we met all over again. It as the most magical night of my life. And I'm not sure life will ever live up to those moments. It was one of those nights you wish you could pause and relive forever. Time did not exist.
Broken over a year, no physical contact, the worst of friends, lovers that never stopped loving.
We talked as if we knew each other a lifetime, as if nothing had happened. Smiled, laughed, I loved your smile. Those dimples. Your face was so beautiful I just wanted to cry. I love those eyes, even though they show pain.
We went to the beach, the first time we actually got out, instead of just making love in the car. You came around to me. Stood in front of me. We both felt it. The intensity. So many emotions all at once, I wanted to burst. It was so strong, I'd never felt anything as magical as that before. "Well this is intense," you laughed.
You apologized for hurting me, and I too. Our differences and past hurts were demolished so easily. Something that caused so much pain had just disappeared in the blink of an eye. No fighting, no yelling, no anger. Just simple truth. That's how I'd describe that night in one word - truth.
You kissed me, well I kissed you back I guess. All this time I was afraid, afraid that this feeling would not be there as much as I wanted it to. But it was there. Stronger than ever. I didn't want it to end, but I pulled away. My head said stop. We hugged for a while, I love your hugs. A hug that says I missed you, I need you, I'm sorry. I still love you? I'm not sure what it meant to you but it was everything to me.
We stood and listened to the waves as you told me how you had learned a lot about yourself, "I don't think we should go back there... it wasn't working with her and I thought about you the past few weeks... what if we end up falling in love again?"
I said nothing, I was feeling so much at once . What did all of this mean? We kissed again under the moon. Maybe your words meant confusion? But the kiss was something, a feeling that came back or just never went away.
You told me your deepest fears and secrets. You had never opened up that much before. We stood looking at the stars and the sea. Facing each other. Just us, alone, no judgement, just truth. We both knew what we were feeling and It scared us.
I knew the night had to end but prolonged it as much as possible. It was perfection in all its imperfections. I knew something was going to change from that moment on. And it terrified me. This unknown future.
You drove me back to my cousin's. Hugged, and explained how we were glad to be back in each other's lives. "Don't be a stranger" you said. We left our love for now. Maybe I understand you're not ready yet. I will wait.
As time passed I drove myself insane with this new 'friendship' we had. Feelings were never shared, nothing was discussed we just enjoyed each other's time and company. I finally plucked up the courage to tell you how I felt and you explained how you're just not ready. But is there ever a right time? I can never forget those last words you said when we ended, "I wish I met you in a few years."
I believe in the now, in acting on your emotions, in expressing your love and never holding back. I guess it's just something you're not used to. You have so many future hopes and dreams that you forget about the now. I cant force you to see what I see and feel what I feel. I've come to terms with this. I've come to terms with myself. But this relationship is something I cant seem to understand?
I decided to let you go some time ago. I thought it would be the hardest thing to do. But it wasn't. It just made me realise how strong these feelings were. It made me realise that when you truly love someone, you can be without them and love them from afar, and that's what I've done. There's this invisible web that will forever connect us, despite ever really being together. I never owned you, so I never really lost you.
Quite frankly I'm drained and tired of this story. I haven't seen you for some time now. But I know when I do, this love I have will come floating to the surface once more, as it always does.
True love never disappears, it just gets buried away sometimes by life.
You're forever in my heart,
H
