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When the chance at a relationship fails, the closest the other person can get to you is being best friends... These words passed by me a few months ago and I hadn't taken much note of them until I realized what was going on. He calls me awake every morning, he sends me a good luck message before every single exam, he baked me brownies, he gave me roses, he constantly tells me I'm beautiful, he notices every little detail, he was there when my grandmother died, he was there when I was stressing about university admission, when we bicker he's always the first to apologize, he's respectful, he's honest, he adores my family, he adores me... So why can't I bring myself to feel about him the way he feels about me? I'm broken.
I don't think you can force love, but it might be helpful to examine where you send your energy and specify why. The inability to feel the same way about this person might be because you have those feelings allocated elsewhere, or you just want something entirely different.
ReplyDeleteDon't beat yourself up! :)
I have the same problem!!! Only I love him that way, and he thinks of me as a best friend, I know it's awful on either end, because no one wants to ruin the relationship, but it can't be helped sometimes. Just be kind if he ever pushes the friendship border and confronts you, that's all you can do <3
ReplyDeleteHe may be thinking the same thing as you...to feel for you the way you feel about him...It's not always easy being in love with your best friend.
ReplyDeleteI have this problem right now too. He is everything I have ever wanted yet I want nothing to do with him.. Why does it work that waY?
ReplyDeleteSomethings you just cannot control.
ReplyDeleteAnd that's the way it is.
I've been in the same position as you are and as time passes by, even if you know that he's kind of perfect, you just cannot feel the same way. It's unexplicable.
Enjoy the friendship and move on.
We'll never be able to rule our heart the way we want to because he's the one who rules us.
Is true you can´t rule your heart. Just be sure you are not taking him for granted and that you won´t regret it afterwards.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we don´t know what we have until we lose it.
Oh my yes I am in the same situation. I so want to make him as happy as he makes me but I don't feel the same way. I realized that the best thing I can do for him is let him go so that someday someone can love him the way he deserves. It sucks.
ReplyDeleteHi, I had the EXACT same situation when I was in collage, i just couldnt feel for him the way he felt for me, it was heartbreaking for me, I stayed home from school and things were not good, but you will feel better. Lives continues and he will eventually find that someone and it's not you, eventhought it might take some years (for me it took 3 years before he figured out that i was not the one..) But it will be fine, just wait and see..
ReplyDeletewomen LOVE bad boys, not the nice guys... it's a fact.
ReplyDeletesimilar situation- He was super loving and always there fore me. Constant hugs/kiss's, msg's of love, and gifts galore. It was overbearing and far too much. He was so full-on, I could not take it anymore. I need to work for some things and I think love is one of them.
ReplyDeletei'm going thru this too! of course the man who treats me how i should (and deserve) to be treated would be my best guy friend! i want to reciprocate his feelings but i can't. he is such a great guy. indeed, what is wrong with us???
ReplyDeleteI was in your situation few months ago. I thought I will never fall for him. But he sees the possiblity in us and waited patiently.
ReplyDeleteIf he adores you, he will understand. Take things slowly and never reject any possible idea. You never know how happy you can be.
Loves,
C.
I understand where your coming from exactly, but i'm the guy in your situation. So confusing & hard but time does help & i know i WILL get over him, as he will with you. If its not mutually, then its not a relationship xxx
ReplyDeleteI had the same experience with my ex bf! We broke up cause I could no longer lie to myself..
ReplyDeleteI'm not happily married with the love of my life!
Gorgeous setting! wish i was there.
ReplyDeleteThea xx
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I hope you don't realize you've always loved him, when he gives himself to someone else.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you don't know what you've got until it's gone.
I know exactly how you feel.
ReplyDeleteTo me it's obvious that you feel something very strong for him The simple fact that you took time out of your life to write this beautiful note proves it :)xx
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