Saturday, May 11, 2013

a second chance

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I just got out of a short relationship but that relationship was by far the best I've been in, I had a special connection with him that I can't even describe & I have never felt that way for any of my other ex. We broke up because I found out he was chatting with his ex, not only the normal chatting but he was ranting, complaining, backstabbing & insulting me to her. We were in a long distance relationship by the way. I got pissed & we didn't talk for a week or so. After that we got the chance to meet up & talk things through. We settled everything but it was clear that we have already broken up. But I felt like the relationship deserve a second chance so I put my ego down & asked him if he would like to try again, because honestly, I love him very much. But his reply was that we should just talk for now & see how it goes in the future. I assume that it's his polite way to turn me down so I told him that I want him to be honest with me rather than trying to make me feel good. He said that he would just want to talk for now & see how things go. So I agreed, but I asked if he still has any feelings towards me. He told me that if he didn't have any feelings still, he wouldn't put in effort to try again. We talked about this yesterday, but he did not text me the entire day today. What do you think? Please help me.

18 comments:

  1. You deserve so much better. If he's not running after you, walk away. You will find someone that respects you too much to even think of cheating.

    Carina xx
    http://www.carstina.com/

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  2. He's not that into you. Be brave, let him go. Forgive yourself. This is not your fault, this is not even about you. Respect yourself, your life and your future. Love will come your way. :)

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  3. it is so important to trust the other one in a relationship. if this is broken it is really difficult to find a way together and i think it is only possible if both want it. i dont think he wants this as much as you. otherwise he had not cheat you and would now do anything to make sure you feel good and loved. but for him you are just an option, to talk to and see what will be (if no better woman walks by if you ask me).
    so be sad for a few weeks and angry because he treated you wrong and then go on.

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  4. Leave his sorry ass!!! You deserve someone you will love you day and night trough everything! Someone who is into YOU and does not complain about you to anyone!

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  5. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

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  6. "people always think that the most painful thing in life is loosing the one you value. The truth is, the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of valuing someone too much and forgetting that you are special too".

    Don't forget about yourself. Its the hardest thing to let go of what you love, but I promise you, you will never get what you want from this guy. If he was really into you, he would never be insulting/backstabbing you in the first place. It will take time but just keep walking forward - you will find so much more happiness without him. x

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  7. move on with your life!
    i totally respect you being honest with feelings and all
    but i think you need to respect yourself more in knowing you deserve better. Been in your shoes before. Think about how he is moving on already and you know you should too.

    God opened a new door when one door closed on me and now, i have found a man who loves me even more than i love him. So be strong! Keep yourself happy and don't wait around for him.

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  8. He is just trying to keep you trailing after him so that when he needs someone be it for physical or emotional affection, he knows he will have you. You can't let him use you like that, you you will be the ex he is ranting about his new girlfriend to.

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  9. He doesn't care. Move on.

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  10. In situations like this, I'd suggest you put yourself first.
    I'd hate for you to be the one left w/ disappointment. His actions clearly show uncertainty to be with you again and he's just keeping you as back-up. You deserve someone who will do all he can to make you feel special. Don't let someone make you feel second best.

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  11. This could workout… you can ask him to try again, make the effort to call him, make the effort to meet with him to discuss things. The truth is you will end up exhausted. Could he love you in the end…possibly. But you will have to do all the work until he wakes up and realizes what you went through to be with him. Odds are if you found him back stabbing about you to his ex once he will do something similar again, it is most likely in his nature. As women we run away with our emotions, we are complex and genetically wired to fall for guys we spend to much time with or thinking about. It is sometimes a blessing but most often a curse. So I say keep in touch with him, as friends. Have fun! be fun! go out with other guys… or girls, whatever. Keep him close so that when he realizes how you make everything come alive, he has to wait in line with all the other men. But thats just me.

    Sincerely,
    Another Girl with the Same Problem.

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  12. love hard but let live. best way i can handle it at this point. going through the same thing.
    xo, all my best.

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  13. I think you should let him be for a while. There's no need to force yourself unto any human. Just stay true to yourself and things would work out fine. Self love is important and it would emanate into sharing it with others.

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  14. Maybe you need to think about why he was complaining about you so much in the first place... Clearly he's not happy in the relationship! Take the hint... Move on sweets... This is not the one.

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  15. I had a similiar situation where I shortly dated this one guy whom I loved the most out of everyone. He would always go off about how bitch his ex was and what not, but I later found out that he had still missed her. When our relationship died off, after me trying to get back with him again, he went to hang out with his ex. That's when I knew that he was worthless and I blocked him out of my life completely. In your case, he's not worth it either.

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