Monday, February 13, 2012

just bear with me

these arms
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hey love,
I'm writing this because I need to and it just helps me deal with things better. Today was awful, I almost lost the thing I love most in my life and it hurt so bad. I love you more than anything, I would take a bullet for you, I would change parts of me for you, I would do whatever it takes to make you happy. I've never felt this way for anyone...I mean it, normally i'm not the one trying to give reasons to not give up on my relationships. I easily accept when it's not going to work and I walk away with my dignity, but with you, I can't. I can't walk away and I can't pretend I don't care as much as I do and I can't just say "screw you" and let you leave, that would only be hurting myself more by pretending I don't need you in my life or i'm better off without you, because i'm not. I was meant to meet you at red& white, I was meant to be a bitch and make you work for it, we were meant to have every single quality on each other's check list and we were meant to be together. Every couple has their problems, none are perfect and at some point or another you hit rock bottom & your relationship is really tested. This is just another test, it can't get any worse from here. I know I want to be with you & nothing can change my mind, not even you saying you don't want to be with me like you did today, because I hope in my heart that wasn't true. I know I can be selfish sometimes, or moody, or too demanding of your time but please just bear with me, I don't mean to be, i'm still finding myself and learning things about myself I didn't even know. I've learned that I am jealous of other girls with you, not because I don't trust you , but because the thought of anyone making you happy that isn't me is just unbearable, i've learned i'm more demanding of time with you lately because i'm not confident enough right now in our relationship, I have this fear of losing you or you breaking up with me that I try to spend as much time with you as possible, to show you that I can be everything you need, make you happy and prove myself to you. I just want you to want me, I want you to be scared of losing me, I want someone for once in my life to be afraid to lose me. I don't want to feel disposable to people. I believe we are perfect for each other, we have our issues but like I said today, we see what no one else does when it's just the two of us. we're magnetic, you can't deny our chemistry, we're both too stubborn too often & we fight for what we believe and love, and although these things cause problems they're also a huge reason why we fell in love with each other. WE are so alike and we when we love, we love hard. Don't give up on me, we're not supposed to have everything figured out right now, we're young. But if there's one thing I believe with all my heart it's when you find someone you love, you don't give up on them even when you have a million reasons to, because we have a bond only we understand. Our love may be difficult at times but there's not a day that goes by where I don't feel like this is worth it. No one can make me laugh like you do, you're the only one who knows how to make my bad days better with a simple kiss on the forehead. My heart races when you call me love and pick up the phone just to hear my voice. Our bodies fit perfectly when we cuddle and nothing in the world could make me believe that there is anything better than being with you. I feel so blessed to have met you and I know we've both hurt each other (unintentionally) but I don't think that's a reason to quit. Things are going to get better because at the end of the day when two people are crazy for each other, nothing in the world will bring them apart. You're my Noah & i'm your Allie, we're just like them, we challenge each other, act like an old married couple, bicker, and get upset but we have a lot more times where we're laughing, holding each other, kissing, making plans for the summer, peeing our pants watching girl with the dragon tattoo and you nudge my knee every time something happens in a movie, we mock each other, we shower together, we make love, we try to embarrass each other, we have 3am tim Hortons ice cap runs and we sleep holding each other the whole night. We've seen each other at our worst and our bests & that's a special connection we share because even at our worst, we still loved each other. If that's not meant to be then there's no hope for the rest of the couples out there. I am sorry that I've cut back some of your time for yourself, that was not my intention, all I ever wanted was to make you happy & when you say your not it kills me, it makes me feel like a failure. Just please throw your doubts out the window, I know it's scary, and I know life's unpredictable but it's like you said "we're not temporary". My feelings for you are still there, they never left and they're still stronger than ever, i've never fought for anyone as hard as I fought for you today & I will keep fighting for us, just please fight for us too, don't make me go it alone. I need you, I'm your biggest fan & supporter and i'm your best friend. This is my pledge to you: I will always have your back when life gets tough, or you have doubts or you feel down because something happened. I will attend every soccer game you allow me at and be the proud girlfriend I was last week & your own personal cheerleader, I will help motivate you with school when assignments and exams are kicking our asses, I will make long summers apart full of working worth it when we have amazing beach days & lots of sex in a car, I will bake you cookies when you want and kiss you always until my lips are numb, I will be easier on you when things upset me & try to let the little things slide because in the end, they're just not worth it to me, I will be your best friend and someone you can share everything with, I will be the best secret keeper when you want to tell me things no one else even knows, I will be at birthdays, family gatherings (if invited), I will embrace any opportunities you have and be by your side when we both discover who we are in life and our biggest goals & passions, I will always encourage you to follow your dreams and believe in you and I will always be behind you in all your decisions. I will show you that love isn't always easy but it's worth it when you have a love like ours, and lastly I will be a complete goof ball with you and total sass, I will tickle you when you act grumpy, I will wrestle with you and pretend i'm so tough when really you basically let me win. I will play video games with you until we feel light headed & I will take care of you when your sick & dramatic and I will make the happiest memories I can with you. I have such high hopes for us baby, I didn't think I would when I first met you but I adore your family your friends your life and you. I know the futures a scary thing and it's never a sure one , it always changes but my hopes are that we get back on track, love each other more with each day that passes, never let each other go again and ideally end up together because waking up to you everyday would be an honour, just being your girlfriend is a privilege and never taken for granted. I can't quite put my finger on when things started getting bad with us but all I know is what's happened is in the past and it's time to let go of the grudges, the hurt, the mistakes we've both made and start a clean slate together. there are only 2 times I want to be with you, now and forever.

20 comments:

  1. The wants and needs of a human being can transform him/her into someone he/she never thought of being.

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    1. Hello. My husband of almost 7 years, cheated on me and left me for her and is living with her now. He said he hasn't been happy in years but never told/showed me he was unhappy. We have a 4 year old son that missed his daddy so much and cries for him to just come home. Our son even crawled all over his car crying "daddy stay home with me." And he still left. He just keeps saying "he's never coming back, no matter what." I didn't know what to anymore..he left me 5/7/15, the weekend before mothers day this year and it broke my heart and I keep praying to God and he keeps telling me "be patient" I was still trying my best but it was hard when this was hurting my son so badly. I have told my sister about this and she gave me some advice to contact a very good and powerful prophet who can help me pray for my husband to come back and be happy with us again which i did and i contacted the prophet. he prayed for me and my husband cam home begging me to take him back and now we ar happily living together and a family. all thanks to the prophet and his email is (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com). May God bless you abundantly!

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  2. Beautiful!
    I know what you're going through, and I wish you the best (:

    Fighting for what you love is always a good thing, even if it doesn't end up the way you wanted. At least, that's what I think.

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  3. Well sometimes in life just following your passion you leave behind things and people which later result loneliness. Follow your dreams but value those who are with you in your struggling phase

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  4. Definitely can feel this, cried a bit while reading.

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  5. @I do, I do...

    That's so true! The girl's wants and needs can transform him into someone he has never been!
    But the girl still dreams and thinks he's perfect. Something like this kinda happened to me, just I could not make sure whether he is that perfect or not. But now he's gone and I don't get to see him or talk to him, cause he was my teacher (few years older of course) but he quit teaching... So my heart broke but we hadn't been even dating. And now I look back and think ''What if'' and I don't even know if there was anything between us or it was just me... But I was too shy to say anything but now it's too late I guess. He's totally out from my life and I regret some things I haven't done so much. I still love him deeply, the way I never have anyone, but life goes on... I guess. And sometimes you just have to move the fuck on and forget him. If you two are meant together, then you'll be. If not - I know it hurts, it hurts so badly, but you should find other things to think about. And some day you will not exactly laugh about it, but think ''It was not worth it. All the thinking and writing crap.. I could do something else instead. Like going out, socialising, taking up a new hobby, playing instrument... Whatever except thinking what if...''

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  6. Amazing..! if a girl wrote this for me I'd be shocked out of this world.

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  7. sorry to say bt i think its crap...nothing is MEANT TO BE....wen somethin good happen credit goes to urself wen somethin bad it becomes MEANT TO BE...

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  8. I think the whole thing with "fate" and all the "meant-to-bes" are just an additional factor made up, in the presence of happiness or unhappiness, to embrace the meaning and make it more special than what it might be. I believe in people who meet, fall in love and struggle for their love together, but that doesn't make it "meant-to-be".

    From an opportunist who believes in luck.

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  9. Thanks for this. Your story hits very close to home, and I am glad to hear there are people out there like yourself who's fighting for love.

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  10. I was having serious relationship problems with my husband and it had resulted in him moving out.Everything got worse,he started going to strip clubs frequently,getting drunk and passing out..Sometimes when we talked on phone,he would threaten me,he was just not himself and our children were suffering for all the drama. I really love him and we had been married for 15yrs which gave us three beautiful daughters..I had also lost a lot of money on therapists and spell-casters..I was in debt and I felt my world crumbling..I was introduced to a spell caster by a friend who he helped with the same thing and I thought it was just a scam all over again but this time it was different..I did all he asked me to and after a few days,he started getting better,he started calling,texting,things just changed between us,emotions,our love.He has a job and has been sober since and am also out of debt..Its a miracle I never believed was possible,I had lost all hope until I found him..He works and if you have the same problem I did,he is the solution: odonshiraad [at] gmail {Dot} com...

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  11. Nothing in this life is easy, so why should love be?
    I believe in fate and that two people can meet in the most random place, probably without even wanting it or expecting it. Not that sure about the concept meant to be though. When we use meant to be as an excuse for not fighting enough for the other person, or the relationship then I don't agree. The problem there is not that is not meant to be, is that we don't want it to be.
    Wether it was fate that you meet, or a coincidence or just life, nothing is gonna be meant to be unless we make it and struggle for it. No relationship is easy they all have their ups and downs, but when you really care about that person you struggle for it.
    Nothing is just meant to be, everything in life needs some effort from our side if not nothing happens

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  12. love has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction. sometimes it is so much better ti live it that way before it gets worse after all, Love is a mutual self-giving which ends in self-recovery.

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  13. love has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction. sometimes it is so much better ti live it that way before it gets worse after all, Love is a mutual self-giving which ends in self-recovery.

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  14. Thank you so much wildernessofspirit@gmail.com! You brought my girlfriend back within 2days. she was at my house when I pulled up and she said we have to talk. She told me that deep down I am the only man for her. I have been waiting to hear that for days now, but within 2days after you cast the love spell everything came into place and we are finally come together again.

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  15. Thank you so much wildernessofspirit@gmail.com! You brought my girlfriend back within 2days. she was at my house when I pulled up and she said we have to talk. She told me that deep down I am the only man for her. I have been waiting to hear that for days now, but within 2days after you cast the love spell everything came into place and we are finally come together again.

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  16. Hello. My husband of almost 7 years, cheated on me and left me for her and is living with her now. He said he hasn't been happy in years but never told/showed me he was unhappy. We have a 4 year old son that missed his daddy so much and cries for him to just come home. Our son even crawled all over his car crying "daddy stay home with me." And he still left. He just keeps saying "he's never coming back, no matter what." I didn't know what to anymore..he left me 5/7/15, the weekend before mothers day this year and it broke my heart and I keep praying to God and he keeps telling me "be patient" I was still trying my best but it was hard when this was hurting my son so badly. I have told my sister about this and she gave me some advice to contact a very good and powerful prophet who can help me pray for my husband to come back and be happy with us again which i did and i contacted the prophet. he prayed for me and my husband cam home begging me to take him back and now we ar happily living together and a family. all thanks to the prophet and his email is (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com). May God bless you abundantly!

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