Sunday, June 12, 2011

to those crazy jealous girlfriends


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This is to those crazy jealous girlfriends. I have to admit I am one of you. I never wanted to be, never thought I would be, but then I fell in love for the first time and found out what is like to see the love of your life with his ex. Last night I let my emotions get the best of me and freaked out when he hugged her…it was just a hug and I flipped. I don’t understand why I get so jealous. He’s mine all mine not hers and I know that and he knows that and he makes sure that I know that. He loves me with all his heart and shows it even when I get into bitch mode. He is my sweetheart and yet I treat him like shit when his ex walks into the room. He asked me this morning how could anyone that “loved” him treat him they way I did. I didn’t have an answer but now I do. It's because I love him so much because I never want to lose him or see him in someone else’s arms. I want him to be mine forever and at times I get selfish and stupid and freak out for no reason. But it’s because I’m so deeply in love with him. But I pushed him pretty far away last night. So far that I’m not sure he is coming back. But I pray to God that he does. Because if I lose him I don’t know what I’m going to do. So Nick this is my sincere apology. You’re my whole life you’re my whole world. I’m so sorry I turn in to a selfish bitch from time to time, my job in this relationship is to work on that, and I can tell you that I’m going to. And to all those other crazy girlfriends like me this is a warning, don’t let it get to the point of no return, change, it’s that simple. I know how you feel and I understand when jealousy gets the best of you but I’m sure your boyfriend loves you just as much as mine loves me (which is a shit ton) and if we are just crazy and freakin out all the time how are we showing them that we love them back, so work on it, all of you. That’s my advice for the day, basically to sum it all up crazy bitches need to stop being crazy bitches.

Always and Forever,

-H

33 comments:

  1. aww how sweet!
    communication helps :)
    tell him more than just "because you're mine"

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  2. I used to be crazy jealous when i first started dating my boyf of two years, now i am certain that no girl can make him happy like i can, so the jealousy eventually faded :)

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  3. awww i completely resonate with everything you wrote!! jealousy is a poison and it makes people do the most bizarre things! its lucky you've identified it for what it is and i hope your nick is understanding and forgiving!!! xx

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  4. When she walks into the room... it's just... really hard.

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  5. I think each person in a relationship has to think, "How would I feel if my partner did this?" How would Nick feel if he saw H hugging her ex? How would H feel if Nick was going crazy jealous on her? Treat each other how you expect to be treated. Don't accuse. Otherwise he/she might start doing the things you keep wrongly accusing him/her of. (and if you really think they're doing something behind your back, why are you with them?)

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  6. Stop being a crazy bitch. Got it. Duly noted!

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  7. I don't like to say it and I do not want to say it.. But this is my story:
    I have been together with my boyfriend for one and a half year now.. Past monday we broke up.. He fell back in love with hiw ex again..
    I blame myself for it.. I should have left him a long time ago.. All the warninga were there.. They texted, they dated, he lied, I cried.. And it happened over and over again.. But I neve had the strenght to leaf him.. Now I did and I feel unhappy, hurt and angry. He used me.. For one and a half year I believed he was mine.. I couldn't be more wrong..
    It leaves me brokenhearted..

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  8. Yes you're right! Even i feel the same way...but i guess jealousy and possessiveness can take a person away from you....so sometimes when u feel jealous..d only thing u can do is sit back and gulp down ur emotions!

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  9. Ugh I am you. Totally going to work on ittt

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  10. Blaahhhh I hate this. I get super jealous when my husband has his ex-girlfriends, crushes, or even friends that are girls on facebook, or when we run into his old high school friends. I'm very insecure. I don't get mad, I just keep it to myself and let it eat my insides. I think I need to work on that.

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  11. I know how you feel. You love him so much, you're so afraid of losing him, to life without him, that you turned into those crazy jealous girlfriends. Don't worry, work on it. Everyone get into that mood once in a while. You guys seem like a great couple :)

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  12. This is pretty familiar to me also. Something I have to monitor quite often, so as not to let it get the better of me. Jealousy is the worst feeling.

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  13. I realized the same thing....after the fact. I was with my first love for 4 years. We were high school sweet hearts and I couldn't imagine myself with anyone else, nor could I imagine him. I had MANY moments of being the "jealous bitchy gf" to an extreme. It ultimately ended up in us fighting and arguing which ultimately ended up in him walking away.

    This break up is one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through and I love seeing stories of girls that experience similar emotions.

    I hope your man realizes and you as well. That saying "you don't realize what you have until it's gone" is so true. Just never thought I'd be the one to have to experience it.

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  14. I can really relate i still struggle sometimes but it gets to a point where you know you love eachother and its not doing any good when you get jealous

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  15. if you felt THAT jealous, it's for a reason. maybe it is because you're a bitch, but maybe it is because he wasn't being respectful. maybe the ex doesn't honor your relationship with who was once hers. if she was cooler to you, and he was more reassuring and less reckless with your trust, then maybe this wouldn't have happened. what i'm trying to say is: trust your gut. be with a guy that doesn't leave you feeling like this.

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  16. so cool the way you wrote it...
    i think theres have to be a balance between jealousy and no jealousy... im a cero jealous person and i think that have affected my relationships beacuse my exbfs taught that i don love them...

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  17. i can relate a bit. just like me deeply madly inlove. ugh. hate those ex of him...

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  18. honestly dude...ur crazy!!! ur story reminds me of what happened to me last week... i texted my ex boyfriend cause i was in town n i live quite far away from him, we're friends n i just wanted to c him for a few minutes, thats it! i didnt even write anything like "i miss u, i need u, i wanna c u" nothing like that! n right after i texted him, his gfriend called me n told me all kinda shit bout how much of a slut i was n how she was gonna beat my ass...WTF! She even texted me like 5 times saying i needed to understand he was never gonna be mine n i needed to find someone elses man to fuck with... double WTF! That is so crazy. I feel bad for him cause I know how much he's gonna have to put up with only cause she's ridiculously jealous (seriously, normal people can have friends without having sex or making out or anything like that!!), n I feel bad for her cause it shows how insecure she is, n even though he loves her, i dont think anybody can take that attitude for too long n he's eventually gonna dump her... So seriously, if ur saying ur boyfriend loves u and u dont want him to leave, dont do that kinda shit, its not only ridiculous but so annoying!!!!

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  19. Been there, done that. Now I've realized, it's not worth being so mad and jealous. What happens happens, and it's sad but true: there's nothing we can do about it. It's not our choice to make them cheat or go back to their ex'es. All we can do is to love them and to know they love us back. They will never love the angry, green monster coming out of us when we get jealous, because it's not us, and they only want us.

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  20. DID you give him this letter?? if ou didnt, i think you should with some minor adjustments of course like when you're addressing "the crowd" (if you will) for exaple when you say "he is my sweetheart" you could just change that to "you are my sweetheart" and then-i think- you should give it to him. But thats probably just because im into handwritten letters. :')

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  21. you have to remember you have no ownership over him, no one is really anyone's and once you begin to believe this than you will continue to be jealous. you are together for a reason and that's the only reason you need.

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  22. Hi i recently read your blog and i loved it!!!..im in love too and sometimes i act like a crazy bitch too, but mi issue is "trust", what can i do if he lied to me, just because he doesn´t want to have troubles with me??..im very confuse hope you can give me some advices :S

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  23. You must know that this post came at the right time to me. I also have a boyfriend that loves me with all his heart, he always made this clear to me but now I have to say that, maybe, he don't love me anymore, at least not the way he used to, and only because I'm a crazy jealous :(
    I pushed him really far away last week and he still didn't came back. I'm soo worried about it, because I won't stand lose the best thing I ever had because such things like that.

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  24. I do this. I am that girlfriend too & it's always because of his ex also. I needed to hear this, thanks.

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  25. I truly don't get this "grazy jealous grilfriend" thing. I don't understand why girls always have to make such a big deal out of these things. If he wanted her, he would be with her, not you. So get your act togheter, and stop acting like an idiot before you loose him.

    I've been togheter with my boyfriend for three years. And one of the reasons why we've been togheter for so long, and will stay togheter much longer is because we actually trust eachother. And that has made us the worlds best friends and lovers.

    Girls always talk about how bad guys are, and how they threat girls. To be honest I feel much more sorry for the guys most of the times. And theres alot of times when I think "how can cute guy like that, be with such a jealous girl"

    Love is beautiful, and it hurts sometimes. And it's suppose to hurt, thats why we value it so much. And that's also why we get jealous. But we always have a choice. You can't ignore your feelings, but you can talk about them.

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  26. You may be right on the jealousy thing- but you may be wrong too. There may be a reason for the madness. He should understand your jealousy, as he should feel the same if roles were reversed. I will admit that I can be a jealous gf too sometimes, but it's because it makes me nervous. He doesn't need to text his ex and hug her. He doesn't need to talk about her and talk to her all the time. I know that he loves me with all my heart, but I think he still has feelings for her. It's totally understandable to be jealous (as long as it's not overly so) and to tell your bf about it. Definitely apologize if it was your fault for overreacting, but watch your heart because he could be the one at fault. Best of wishes! http://eclecticteen.blogspot.com/be the one at fault.

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  27. Beleive me ,there is no such thing as ex lover friend ,i dont want to disturb you but beleive me i know this for certain ,even when there is no sex or even speak-cheating involved ,getting attention or affection from an ex IS CHEATING!

    So if both partys are on the same page and love each other very much ,they should explain this to their ex`s and tell something like `even though there is no hard feeling between you and me my relationship wont work while you are in my life ,ill remember you dearly but i have to stop seeing you` or something like that.

    You can hide your feelings but you will explode somewhere else to your bf for some unimportant issue so be very honest to yourself and to him and say what you want or bite the bullet and find someone else thinking the same way you are ,jelousy is the sign of love not a disability or bad personal trait.

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  28. Dear God.
    Thank you.
    Sincerely-
    Another crazy bitch.
    Xo

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  29. Girls... I'm one helluva crazy jealous bitch as well!!! I hate it!!! Sometimes I wish I could be hypnotized from not being jealous. Everytime my boyfriend mentions any of his friends that are girls, or "friends" (it doesn't matter coz I immediately assume it's always a GIRL) - I go crazyyyyy, like I'd forget I was human and treat him like crap. It's going to be a huge hurdle, but I'll definitely get rid of this insanity for the man I love... You know, have a little more faith in him.

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