Monday, January 10, 2011

you can't make someone love you


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His hair, falls perfectly without him trying. His eyes, shine perfectly when he’s smiling. He took my perfume, sprayed it on himself and said, “so I can smell of you”. I melted. I never really wanted to think I was in love with him, I just thought I want what I cant have, but no, now I know without a shadow of a doubt. I’m in love with him, and if it’s possible to love someone more everyday, I love him more everyday. I hate him. I hate him so much, I loathe his being. And yet I cant help myself, i'm like putty in his hands, I want to hug him, kiss him, hold his hand, I want to feel the beat of his heart, his warm touch next to mine. And yet all of these things are impossible. For now. I’ve set myself a goal, I’m not going to give up without a fight. I know that at least if I don’t give up, I will be able to accept defeat if the time comes, if I try my very hardest. But I know that in the end, you can't make someone love you. So I’ll wait. Always.

26 comments:

  1. the agonizing pain, the waiting and reality...this feels so familiar.

    beautifully written.

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  2. I agree with trying your hardest, but if it fails, why wait forever? Don't you deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love him?

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  3. "He took my perfume, sprayed it on himself and said, “so I can smell of you”. I melted." I melted myself too. When you know you've tried your hardest and it doesn't work, it was for a reason. Everything happens for a reason. Im a firm believer. Dont give up. Love is a beautiful thing, but more so when it's returned. Best of luck.

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  4. I dont belive everything happends for a reason, thats bullshit.. We are masters of Our reality!
    Tell Him that You hate Him, but tell Him WHY.. Why do You?
    Hate is so 2010!!!

    NO
    H8

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  5. Great post. Seems we can all relate.

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  6. There's no room for hate in a relationship. It's too much negative energy. Hope you resolve your feelings.

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  7. I know exactly how you feel like. lots of love.

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  8. Your goal is now mine (and probably many others who will read this) too.
    Here's to fighting!


    xR

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  9. So, so beautiful! Here's to waiting <3

    http://visionsofmemories.wordpress.com/

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  10. Safe in the arms of love?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0OZ29qiPNMc&feature=related


    NMW

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  11. Not wanting to give up without a fight, wanting to feel his heartbeat.. your words sound like hers.

    Always consider that there are others out there, and that you can live without this one. You deserve someone who will treat you right, and you're better off alone than mistreated by him or abusing yourself over him.

    You can't make someone love you and you can't change people into who you want them to be. You can't even change people back into who you thought they were. If you get over this guy, it will not be a "defeat" of the relationship but a triumph for yourself.

    There are others out there, and when it's right you won't have to love and hate him.

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  12. I could have written this every last word.

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  13. 2 years ago I could have written the same thing. I loved somone soo much & hated him too because I could NOT make him love me. What a shame but I'm happier now. Yeah, definitely happier cuz who loves me loves me for real not because I made him. =)

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  14. I've been in love with a boy for over a year now. I'm in a relationship but I think of that other guy more often than of my bf. I know it's not fair but I know that this other guy doesn't love me. So what to do? I wanna fall out of love with him but I can't. And I know that I have to break up with my bf but I can't do that either because I don't want to hurt him. The situation sucks.

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  15. You will love one day, Nora my darling, love someone who loves you. I never thought it was possible, but now, we both know, I found it. You will too.
    <3

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  16. and,you can't make someone love you again too.

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  17. I know the feeling. And I am in fact competing for his love which I shouldn't do because I dont think he wants to love any deeper than in a superficial way so I may as well disconnect myself from him but I can't because I will need him financially as long as I can't seem to find a paying job. So as much as I hate him now (going thru his emails from time to time) I will be like putty in his hands the next time I see him. I can't even force myself to be with other people because I don't see anyone out there worth the distraction !! That's what pisses me off the most.

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  18. i know very well the feeling and it's so freakin hard, but i still love him :( .......... - m

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  19. Take it for someone who has doing this for 12 years... don't wait. Don't waste 12 years.

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  20. It was like if i am reading my own story.....it is so real..........beautifully put into words....And yes its true you can not make someone love you.

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  21. I've waited. Always. Half my life. Turns out he has been waiting for me all this time too. And now the timing is finally right for us. It is the most amazing feeling. If he is meant to be yours he will find you.

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  22. last year i was in your place... i dated for 8 months with a guy and i didnt cared if he saw me like a friend or not... just to be with him felt amazing... but now he's gone, i couldnt made to love me... and it feels like sheet but at least i tried and there'll not be regrets at least for me.

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  23. This touches close to home.
    I met a girl 12 years ago. We started dating in 2004 I wasn't ready for a relationship and ended up not fully being there for her. One day I took her to my moms and my "friend" neighbor was there. She started talking to him later behind my back and then began a relationship with him. 2005-2007 I never spoke to her then she came back saying how much she loved me and how she always comes back cause she knows you only love one person. I took her back we moved in together and it was nothing but arguments and fighting we never got along she had turned into a headstrong angry person and it made the happy outgoing me feel suffocated. We went to Paris and all my attempts of having her truly fall in love with me again failed. Shortly after we returned she left me and got back with the guy. 2009-2011 we never spoke. Again she came back and Said the same things this time I believed again cause she had recently lost both her parents I thought maybe she had changed. I tried so hard to be there for her as a friend and love her again. We spent everyday together for 4 months took her to Hawaii then upon returning she left me again an went back to him.
    Now I am not only very upset with myself for putting so much investment and time into a person who doesn't lose sleep or even care about my well being. But I am so deeply saddened cause I know I'll never speak to her for the rest of my life. As much as I want to wait and hope someday she realizes. I know that she never will love me she's incapable of it. So I must let go and move forward and never look back. Cause the person that you actually love true love is someone who loves you back and never ever gives up on you. That's true love. And that's my twisted love story. Keep up move on. You'll find it when your not looking and finally happy with yourself.

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  24. This is a beautiful post. I feel your pain. I lost my first true love and my heart will never beat the same. Stay strong and good luck! <3

    http://infatuationoflove.blogspot.com/

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  25. Run as fast as you can & never look back

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