Sunday, April 11, 2010

never had luck in love


lucia

I have never had luck in love. When I mean luck in love, I mean luck with having a boyfriend. I have always had luck in love in friendship and family. People have always taken care of me; I have never been left alone with myself and all my feelings. Therefore, the fact that I never have had a boyfriend, have not bothered me. I’ve been filled with love from my family, and from all of my adorable friends. I know I am lucky. Not everybody live such a great life, with supporting family and friends. But lately, I’ve been feeling kind of empty. It’s like I’m longing for someone, it’s like my heart is screaming for something more. I feel embarrassed of this; because I really should be happy. But still, I can’t ignore the fact that I’m in a need for a boyfriend. There is so much that I want to do, so much that I’ve never had a chance of doing. Like kissing in different settings, falling to sleep with somebody’s arms around me, having thousands of tickling butterflies in the stomach, waking up with somebody starring at me, laughing cheerfully out loud when this somebody is being silly, walking hands in hands in the city and feel like you are the luckiest girl on planet, being teased with, and then getting forgive-me kisses, being told that you are beautiful, and tell it back, doing things that you never wanted to do, but you now want to do because he likes it, talking on the phone with him at late nights just to hear his voice, being understood and loved for being yourself, being told that you are the most important person in the world for him, and that nothing is ever going to change that.

I have so many things that I want to say and so many things that I want to do. But I can’t do anything. I don’t know this somebody, and I am afraid that I never will. I have waited so long for this somebody to come, so long that I have made him an unrealistic and fictional person. Boys like him don’t really exist. They are too good to be true. They are made up in messed up minds like mine, and the only time you will ever meet them, is when you fall asleep and drag them in to your dreams.

- ingrid

152 comments:

  1. i feel the exact same way. every word.

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  2. boys like this do exists ! you just have to be patient, but I swear they're out there and you will find him one day, promise.

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  3. You have so much to look forward to!
    Be patient, and dont look for him, he will come!

    :))

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  4. Story of my life...

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  5. story of my life too. every word, every feeling.

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  6. I read this blog all the time and never comment. But your story perfectly described my life too, and I felt the need to say thank you for sharing it. I keep believing that I'll find him eventually, and I hope that you can find a way to believe that for yourself as well.

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  7. i feel exactly the same way...im afraid ur right too..

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  8. That was my life until I met my now boyfriend. I agree completely with Marte, that he will come. Concentrate on yourself and it will happen when you least expect it :) xx

    http://hopechella.blogspot.com/

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  9. I always have this feeling, this empty thing, and keep me thinking if the reason of my beatyful sadness is a inexistent he. But i'll wait. I want to wait. I need to wait. i need to know how is to be dressed with love!

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  10. I want to tell you there are more girls out there than you could imagine who read your story like it's their own. I don't know if that encourages or discourages you, but thank you so much for sharing your story; it sounds like me exactly.

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  11. What I think is so wonderful is, it sounds like you know how to love! You've learned from those around you and you've been loved. So be happy!! When you meet the right guy you won't mess up a potential dream romance because you don't get love! So, keep loving those around you and those who cross your path and I bet that perfect guy is going to fall right into your lap...but remember even Prince Charming isn't perfect, a rose comes with many thorns...that's what makes it exciting!! xo

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  12. i relate to this completely.

    i know i am capable of loving. i have so much love to give, that i WANT to give.
    but nobody seems to want it.

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  13. Thank you for sharing your story! Your feelings closely reflect my own... I've never been with a boy that made me feel so happy and comfortable and that we belong together. I have a tendency to romanticize everything in life, and I have imagined the feeling I should get when I am with "the right one." Alas, I have not yet to come across someone like this. I hope he exists.

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  14. God, I feel exactly the same way. That could've been my post.

    Well, I wish us luck.

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  16. i think your blog is beautiful and i can't stop reading. you have a fabulous way with words and you speak of everything i'm feeling at this moment. it's purely wonderful.

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  17. I agree with what others have said and be patient. It feels like you will never meet someone and then when you least expect it, you will. That's what happened to me and it still blows my mind.

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  18. Don't worry it'll be okay in the end, I know exactly how you feel and I know this won't mean anything to you right now. But one day you'll know! And I hope that day comes soon :) I know it's hard to wait, but it'll be worth it.

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  19. youre so right! they dont exsit. and if you think they do, you dont know everything.

    had my perfect dream boy.

    found out he cheated on me last week.

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  20. Story of my life. That's how I feel but others don't seem to understand especially my friends that are attached.

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  21. I used to think this too; I used to hate waiting around for a guy to come along so I went out there in search of him. That didn't work because most of the guys are dickheads.
    My friends used to tell me "they will come along, you just have to be patient" and i hated those words because they already have a boyfriend, so of course they would say that...

    but then, i went on holiday after my graduation, and there i met my current boyfriend. We're in a long distance relationship. Something I never expected to happen to me...something so out of the blue. When I left to go back, a month later, he came to visit me.
    We skype almost every day of the week when we're free and not caught up with the time-difference.

    it's been 4 months... and surprisingly its been going well.

    so that guy is out there. i've experienced it... and being the hypocritical person that i am, 'you just have to be patient because that person will come around'...

    they come when you least expect it.

    hope all is well with you!
    :)

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  22. Boys like that DO exist. I used to paint images in my head of guys I'd love to be in love with before I fell asleep. I used to have that same longing. But I have him now and it's still so hard to believe because I thought it was impossible to ever have what I dreamed of. And sometimes it will be someone you least expect. Don't worry. It will happen. Be patient and love will find you.

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  23. I feel the exact same way.

    Check out my blog:
    http://elegantmuse.blogspot.com/

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  24. i thought like that as well but later i found a guy friend who fits everything i've imagined but unfortunately, he doesn't want to be involved in a relationship because he's afraid to :(

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  25. It will come to you when you least expect it. I hope it will for all of us.

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  28. dear ingrid, i felt exactly the same before this somebody showed up for me a couple of months ago. all i want to say is that you just need to be patient. you were born to meet this somebody at some point of life. just be patient and make sure when this somebody shows up, you know that he's the one. love.

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  29. You...are me. Lol. wow.

    I feel like I'll die waiting.
    I can't do anything about it which is the worst part. I've waited and waited for so long...that I don't think it'll happen for me...I don't think "he" will come. He is to only in my dreams.. and it scares me to death.

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  30. be open to possibilities. (:
    Don't wait for it, MAKE IT HAPPEN
    It may not be the first guy to come along, or the second, but your life is really how you write it! ♥

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  31. Although I could never ask for better friends, I worry that I will be old and alone and my entire youth would have passed without anyone to share my body with.

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  32. me too...why?i need someone who can take care of me n someone who will love forever...i think my life is empty w/out love...Where is my MR RIGHT??

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  33. i am speechless , yesterday i was still browsing this blog thinking y no one tell my story yet untill i saw ur post today . i totally understand how u felt (abt being afraid this guy will nv come ) and know tht i shdnt be complaining as other aspect of my life is great , i shd be thankful alrdy ...

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  34. i've found my man like that :)

    he turned up from the most unexpected place. i was feeling like you too.
    dont lose faith.

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  35. I know you might have heard this before but this kind of boy really exists. If I had read this two weeks before I would have been among those girls who feel exactly the same. But now I can tell you for sure that sometimes fairy tales come true and you will someday find the boy that makes you happy in every possible way .

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  36. that's not true. they do exsits in real life. you just have to stop looking.

    my problem was, like yours, i was so obsessed to find him. i cried and i wanted him so bad that i made every other guy him and by doing that i only got hurt. then, i finally decided not to look for him anymore. i stop living my life obsessed with what every guy thought about me. i stopped looking for love, the love i imagined in my dreams and then there he was - right in front of me.

    we've been happy for almost two years now - and all i every dreamed of is now real.

    do not blind yourself by turning yourself to a smaller person - you are much greater and more worthy then you think. if you let yourself feel free and if you don't limit youself, you will find that there are millions of great guys to discover. guys you never gave any attention. - give people a chance - and don't be difficult just because you have an idea. HAVE FUN & then when you at least expects it he will show up ! good luck ! :)

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  37. You are writing here sort of my own story.. still hoping for love.. even though it is hard to keep up hoping.. so am not the only one and you are not alone :-)
    The secret is to enjoy life as much as possible??

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  38. this could have been written by me. i was so shocked to see my own name down there, for a second or so i thought it was my subconscious playing a trick on me.
    i've had a fortune cookie tell me "you will find love in the most unexpected of places"- that was two years ago. i'm still waiting. you girls give me hope, though, that everything will be alright in the end - for all of us

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  39. hey ingrid,

    what u just wrote down echoes how i feel everyday. i have all the luck with friends and my family and i'm not lacking in anything. just love.

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  40. i've always felt that way as well, and had believed in love only as an idea that was not really applicable to my life. but then, as clichéd as it gets, when i wasn't expecting i finally fell in love with a boy i've known for 3.5 years. (and this was 1 week ago.)

    once you know it, you know it, and it passes through understanding, and he's the one for you, and you're the one for him. you'll get there, you just need to let time take its time. meanwhile, be happy, know yourself more, and enjoy life as much as you can single.

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  41. boys like that do exist. maybe they aren't right in front of you, but go out and find a boy! maybe the first one isn't always the best, maybe you will have to experience some shit before you've found the ONE, but he will come.

    sorry for my english, i'm from holland

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  42. That is exactly how I feel too. I'm glad I'm not alone to feel this way.

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  43. like so many others, i feel the same way. thank you for sharing your feelings with the rest of us.

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  44. Amazing. You put down in words every single feeling that I feel to. Your'e not alone.

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  45. rest assured that you are not alone in these feelings ingrid.

    signed with as much comfort and love a blog comment can give

    x

    rachel kara

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  46. my name is Ingrid too funnily enough. one thing I have learnt about life is that things come when you are least expecting it. be patient, your prince charming is waiting for you, somewhere, rest assured that you will find him. keep the faith, love Ingrid x

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  47. i feel like you,in every word...but i really hope it will come,becouse we deserve to be happy, =)

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  48. As you can tell from the comments, you aren't alone in feeling this. To me it just means you're waiting for the right guy to complete your life, that you won't settle for just anyone - that's a marvelous thing (: Keep dreaming and never let your standards fall. It will be SO worth it (:

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  49. if you stop looking for this person that is when they will arrive and trust me boys like this do truly exist i waited years and now i'm finally able to enjoy everything i dreamt of.

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  50. they do exist! i used to feel exactly (and i mean exactly) like you and then we found each other and now i'm so happy.

    it always happens when you least expect it so don't give up hope!

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  51. Just read all of those comments above me... I've never commented on this blog before though I read it all the time too, but couldn't help myself this time because finally my story is up there! I totally feel the same way as you too and I'm so glad we're not alone :) I guess we just have to be patient and stop looking and.. it will come when we least expect it.
    Good luck to all of us :)
    <3

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  52. This is exactly like me!

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  53. I had my first boyfriend when I was 16, it lasted 3 years... I've been married.. I got separated...
    I've been in serious, long-term relashionships all my life...
    And I feel exactly like you! Searching unrealistic guys to feel the hole just like you...
    But that's the real danger we have to worry about, I think: not miss the real thing when it comes because we're too attached to the dream!
    We have to exercise, daily, accepting a person for what he is.

    Don't feel bad about yourself... We are all together in this.


    PS: Sorry any grammar mistakes, english is not my native language...

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  54. crazy. but i really feel the same. every sentence. every word. every feeling. all of it, just the same!
    in some way, this text felt good to read. i think i'm going to print it out maybe. and then put it on my wall. so that i can read it every now and then.

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  55. I am feeling the same, because I am looking for a boy the same way that my ex boyfriend is. And this is really bad :/

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  56. wow... same story i had.. every words, every feelings about... good for sharing!!

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  57. Story of my life too. Thanks for sharing.

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  58. yeah. my story. i feel exactly the same way.
    i hope, i will meet HIM someday. :(

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  59. I know it seems impossible, unattainable, but when you least expect it, he'll arrive. Mine caught me when I was plunging, head first, into cynicism.
    My story was similar to yours.
    A perfect man doesn't exist, but "Mr. Right" does.
    <3 Bo

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  60. I have the same problem, but I've stopped chasing love because it's like a butterfly that keeps eluding you...stop chasing this butterfly and it will come to rest onto your shoulder.
    visit me at
    http://lovers-shore.blogspot.com/2010/04/butterfly.html

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  61. I am usually a very bitter and cynical person when it comes to love and relationships. I deny in public that I would want anything like that knowing it is all fake and comes to an end anyway. However, I will announce here that after reading this post, I admit that I do really want somebody like that as well. Living with fear isn't easy, but you have described everything that I really do feel when I'm shielding love and I just want to say thank you.

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  62. I've been reading this blog for a while now, and if I would post something it would be exactly this text, every single word. I can totally relate to this, the emptiness... and the shame. I allready have so much, so why am I wanting even more?? I'm scared too, because I realize that some people are just not ment to find real love, ever. I SOOO hope I find it someday!!!

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  64. Your words sound me like flowers althought the difficulty to realise all these feelings. One day we will find! Keep walking and believing! Good luck! Faith!

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  65. I can relate to this so much. I've never had a boyfriend and these are feeling i feel.. but if you have friends and family with you it makes it easier to bare. The perfect man is there somewhere.

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  66. My bestfriend wrote this ! Im so proud of you sweety, and I love you really much , even though all you want is a stupid boyfriend -.-

    just kidding, iloveyou ingrid ånderå <3

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  67. Oh my, every single word could have been written by me.

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  68. you have somehow managed to take my jumbled, cluttered thoughts in my mind into one, very-well written entry. Everything you said is how i see it, except for that one paragraph at the end...i am still hopeful that someone is out there, that's right for me. so don't lose hope, okay? stay strong, keep being yourself, and hopehopehope cuz ur not the only feeling this way =]

    <3

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  69. i've felt this quite a lot, it will be alright though!

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  70. Story of my life. I'm so sick of people telling me to be patient and wait for him. "He'll show up when you least expect it". Well I've done a hell of a lot of waiting, and I'm starting to think that he'll never show. That I'll never be happy. That I'll die all by myself, never having experienced the love that I think I deserve. Wow, that sounded depressing. Sorry.. :/

    I'm very happy you shared this however. How weird it may sound, it is kind of comforting knowing that there are people out there that feels the same way.

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  71. This was me two years ago. For as long as I could remember I wanted everything you describe. I knew the guy I dreamt of couldn't exist. I felt hopeless after so much wishing and praying and nothing happened.I stopped waiting, stopped looking and he came to me. If you know what you really want, let go. He will come to you. Promise.

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  72. i don't know if someone said this before, i won't read the comments, anyway, but i wanted to say that you should see 500 days of summer. one of the secondary characters say, at some point, that the girl he loves is better than the girl of his dreams because she is real. and you will feel the same for someone. no imaginary person is better than a real one.

    and, while someone does not show up, just try to do whatever you want to do and can't when you'll find that person that'll stick around.

    good luck ;)

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  73. Ingrid,?
    I am a young filmmaker from Los Angeles and am working on a documentary that is partly focusing on people just like you. Where are you located?Check out the following links about our project and if you are interested in getting involved It will be an even better film, If not would you give me permission to use your post here at LeLove in the film?

    Cheers.
    -Hunter
    alovedocumentary@gmail.com
    h.metcalf@mac.com

    http://vimeo.com/10712487

    http://www.facebook.com/pages/Love-A-Documentary/111140755565166?v=wall

    http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/love/love-a-documentary

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  74. I think we can all take comfort in the fact that love IS out there, and though sometimes it seems like it'll never come, don't give up hope. At least that's what I'm trying to do. Hang in there, everyone!

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  75. HEY! wait a second,i ahvent read the other replies, but I can tell you this.Im not specially pretty, but hey. I conisder myself attractive and all that shit-to call it on shallow standarsds-but i had my very first kiss at 21.21!!! then well that ended and now i have All that you describe in your letter.All of it.And I wa TOTALLY completely sure I was never going to get it.And i did.I DID GET IT.So are you.

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  76. Can someone tell me something?

    As a boy who relates 100% to this, I see so many girls relating to this, and ask myself: where are this girls in realworld? Why can't I find true-hearted girls outhere?

    Do you girls stay at home waiting for mr. right?

    I don't want to sound like an ass, but I just seem to find girls who only care for money, looks and status.

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  77. The thing is- there is only the one boy... oi with the the poodles already!

    Just the one, the one, the one who is out there, but not here. The one you have to trust blindly in, even though you can't see him. The elusive 'one' he's charming, he's kind and he adores you. That's lovely, when is he getting here?

    I have so much I want to say to you, so much I want to tell you, but when we find our place, will I be able to open my mouth, more importantly, my heart?

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  78. I feel this too. *sigh*

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  79. Every single word of that resonates with me completely. Up until a month ago I have felt the exact same way as you. Though I didn't think that person existed, it turns out he was there all along - my best friend who is now more than that. Don't worry, I truly believe there is somebody out there for everybody. Waiting for him to come will just make it that much sweeter.

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  80. It happened for me! It will happen for you. I was always lost until I met him. I thought something was wrong with me and I felt guilty for all the good things in my life not being enough.

    When he came along he made everything even more fun and beautiful and he healed all the pieces of me that were broken.

    I thank the universe every day that I found someone who I love this way. He makes me breakfast in bed every day, tells me i'm beautiful and loves me in an even bigger way than I imagined. He cries when I cry, he's sad when i'm sad, he smiles everytime I see him. Even after all these years!

    Guys like that DO exist - I found one and so will all of you ladies x

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  81. to the boy above who asked the question..... everywhere!

    Friends of friends maybe? A friends girlfriend will ALWAYS have a friend who is genuine. I say this as a female who has known many-a-women. We always have awesome single friends who want nice guys not just rich guys.

    Don't go for the girl who you have to try so hard to attain. Go for the girl who is happy to sit back and talk to you because she is genuinely interested. Give that girl a chance and you never know what might happen!

    If you are only meeting superficial girls it may be because you are surrounded by superficial people or hang out in pretentious places.....perhaps :)

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  82. you aren't the only one, guys like this do exsist. you just gotta wait for em and trust me they will be worth the wait

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  83. this is what i exactly feel as well. never ever been in luck with love but...i believe he's out there somewhere. as much as i hate to wait, i will.

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  84. Thanks you for the post, describes me perfect!

    And I know everything about "let it happen", "dont look for him" and "dont wait". But how do you do that? How did you stop thinking about guys as your future boyfriend, how did you just let i happen? I dont know how to stop looking. I'm trying to lay focus om my new job, my lovely friends and my sports but nothing seems to work 'cause everywhere I go they will be boys and when I see boys I just can't not fantasize about my future.

    Soooo.... How did you do?

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  85. exactly exactly exactly!
    thank you for posting this - i don't feel so alone :)
    <3

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  86. Hey just wanted to say that that post was exactly how i feel all the time! till i keep feeling that there ain't a guy for me out there! but i keep tellin myself to just patiently wait and he'll definitely pop out of nowhere! :D dw! that somebody will appear before u know it! :D

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  87. are you me talking? :O so true... every point you said hit home for me. Let's hope for the future, shall we? In the mean time, family and friends all the way :D

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  88. I feel the exact same way.

    I have this sort of fictional guy that is in my dreams (he has dark thick wavy hair, loves star wars and science fiction and books, probably drives a motorcycle and loves to travel and he gets me and my humor) but I know that he won't ever come true. But if I'm lucky someone will come along one day that will hold my hand and stroke my arm when I get upset or talk to fast and that will love me and will be willing to live with me and my faults. And he will accept my need for space and solitude.

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  89. you know I have the exact same life, and oh am I happy to have discover your blog. I never thought anyone else had these feelings. Im empty all the times, even though I have a wonderful family and fantastic friends. Were is my boyfriend? I think about it every day and I have done that for 18 years. My friends say it will come. I dont think it will. When? if I've almost lived for 20, like a 1/4 of my life, when is his time to come. I dont get it. I'm really sad and I understand you so bad

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  90. .. As I can see too many people are searching for some live:-) It is not only me in this world.. that is a kind of releaf.. hope really that the sould mate - the man of my "dreams" will arrive soon..
    Good luck to all of us

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  91. oh, what a story! i feel the same way! i'm putting this blogpost to my bookmarks so i can read it over and over again, whenever i feel for it. thank you for shearing!

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  92. i hear ya, girl!
    story of my life

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  93. This is word for word how I'm feeling right now so I understand. It'll all work out eventually - just need to stop looking

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  94. totally agree w/ the boy in the above comment... where are these ppl in real life?? I'm surrounded by wonderful ppl, but that special mr. right has not shown up yet. and its not like i stay home all day- i love doing spontaneous things and experiencing new things!! dunno wut im doing wrong.. =/

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  95. Ingrid, you have taken the thoughts and word out of my head and mouth. I just keep trying to stay positive! I'm glad I'm not alone in the world with these feelings.

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  96. Don't worry. This was my life word for word, and trust me it'll show up. TRUST ME!! And when it does, it's the greatest thing in the world.

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  97. story of my life, i swear. word for word.
    but i still hope! :) and i wish you all the best with all my heart.

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  98. Every word is true. i feel the same.
    i´m overwhelmed how many people feel like that.
    thank you so much for posting!

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  99. What an awesome text! I feel exactly the same!
    GOD i have an gifted friend who have written this!

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  100. giiiirrrlll...im a 17 yr old female and all my friends have "hooked up" with a guy and have prom dates this year...and then there is me :(

    i feel you..you are NOT alone

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  101. this relates so perfectly to my life, it's not even funny.
    although, i went out with friends the other night, and was quite close with a guy who used to go to my school, however, he has a girlfriend. now i'm so confused about what i should do, because he's funny, good looking, incredibly smart, and he makes me feel good about myself, but i obviously don't want to do anything while he has a girlfriend. something almost happened between us the other night, and i can't stop thinking about what to do, and he's admitted to me that it was so hard for him not to kiss me the other night. i'm completely torn...

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  102. THIS IS TOTALLY THE STORY OF MY LIFE!!! until last july...

    I never have any lucks among the guys. I have many good guy-friends but no sparks of love with of them. All my close girlfriends are always in and out of relationship, while i was the single one that will be there for every breakup. My family was concerned that I might be a lesbian and my Mom tries to find me boyfriend.

    It carried on for years until I met someone who totally blew me away last july. We dated for a month knowing that he would return to his hometown (he's a french) after summmer is over. We dated, we talked, we hold hands, we swim at sunset and we kissed under the stars. Love is the power of 2 total strangers together and become inseparable.

    Even though we're 6 hours different and 6493.3 miles apart now.. we're still madly in love. Hang in there and wait patiently for the one guy that will sweep your feet off.

    love yourself and your love one will appear too. bluffing yourself into falling for someone else you dont will harm the chances of meeting that one guy! all the best!

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  103. I have read this blog for quite some time now and never commented. Until now ....

    You text hit me like a rock. I was just laying in my bed last night thinking about just these questions. Asking myself to stop playing games with my head.

    So thanx for sharing! Made my day. =)

    // Ida

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  104. tears in my eyes... everything written, all so true...

    I always say hang on to HOPE...

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  105. I found mine, you'll find yours. Be excited because it can all come true - I have been with my man 5 years and it's still exactly as you describe - it's worth the wait!

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  106. I was thinking the same a year and a half ago. And I wrote it down with the SAME words.
    But one day I went to a party with a cousin (I wasn't going to go, I was already in my pijamas), and I met him. The most extraordinary guy in the whole world! When I wasn't expecting it at all!
    So be patient. And positive.

    Good luck!

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  107. It's like you took the words right out of my mouth.
    I feel the exact same way, and my friends keep telling me that it will happen when I least expect it.
    I keep telling myslef that there must be a reason why everyone tells you the same thing, and sometimes I actually forget that empty feeling until i see a happy couple on the street, and then nothing can take that empty feeling away. And like you I feel really embarrased because I have such a wonderful and loving family.

    Anyways, I truly wish you every happiness, who knows maybe we need to let go of that "perfect guy" dream to find someone who loves us for who we are.
    Good luck.

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  108. This is so touching and i used to feel the same way. I'm only 17 but after going through my parents divorce when i was very little left me thinking that maybe love doesn't exist like everyone thinks. Through the most unordinary circumstances I met a boy. He didnt seem special at first but now 11 months on I am so in love with him. We have everything you listed about what you want and later this week we will be celebrating our one year aniversary.
    I know it is naive to think we will last forever and ever and as much as I wish we will, as does he, right now Im just so happy to have found something so beautiful so young. I know I am extremely lucky.

    SO dont worry, someone will come along when you least expect it. I assure you =]

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  109. forgive me love...but i'm tired of waiting..goodbye :(

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  110. ....I understand what you mean. I've never had a boyfriend and it feels like you have to "be ok" with just family and friends while they get to experience this kind of love and "be patient". In a way it feels unfair....incomplete:]

    but i think you're beautiful. messed up minds aren't that bad anyway.

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  111. ....I understand what you mean. I've never had a boyfriend and it feels like you have to "be ok" with just family and friends while they get to experience this kind of love and "be patient". In a way it feels unfair....incomplete:]

    but i think you're beautiful. messed up minds aren't that bad anyway.

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  112. Every single word is the exact way in which i'm feeling. The longing and the fear of never knowing the somebody.

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  113. They do exist! There are a few out there. Somewhere, sometime, you'll find him. When you least expect it, you know...
    I have found my Somebody. He's exactly the way you describe him, really! So, I'm pretty sure there is a person for you too somewhere. Sing and laugh and he'll come aorund!

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  114. Story of my life.
    - Well written. Loved it!

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  115. that's the story of my life...

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  116. Quit looking for him, and he will find you! <3

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  117. Whoaa it's weird to read something i recognize SO much & to see here at the comments there are a lot of other girls with exactly the same damn problem.

    I want a boyfriend too and i know i have to stop looking for him but is so hard haha. I get impatient but also excited when he finally shows up :) I'm so happy for the ones who found theirs already!

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  118. they always say be patient, he will come in the most unexpected way but what if we already cross past him because we are so into our own dream world? that is really terrifying...

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  119. You will find the perfect guy for you eventually. I think at a time when you least expect it :) Thank you for posting this because it has made me so much more appreciative for my boyfriend.

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  120. just came across your blog for the first time. . and wow, i completely understand that feeling/ i feel the same way.

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  121. i felt EXACTLY like that for almost 25 years... i got to the point where i thought i'd be single forever...

    and then i met my boyfriend :) i still can't believe how lucky i am to have him...

    be patient. the perfect guy will eventually show up :)

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  122. This is exaclty what I am feeling, or something. I've been trying to figure out some sort of description of my situation or something like that, and you just nailed it. To be honest, I have woke up crying, because I have realized those dreams are just dreams, and the only person I share those moments with is myself.. I feel so ungrateful when all I want is to feel that love in reality. Damn it, why is it so hard to just live without that?

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  123. Dear Ingrid, it's very comforting to see we're not alone. I never cared too much about being single but lately I've been wanting to experience and express. Many of my girl friends never had a boyfriend either. Mind you, we're all in our twenties. There's no religion or anything else holding us back. They're all strong, independent, bright & pretty girls. Even from an objective point of view you'd think they would be having a boyfriend on their arm all of the time, but the reality is otherwise. It can get you down or it can make you grow. Don't be patient because that implies you're waiting. Just find ways to grow stronger. They say loneliness is a lack of self-love: love yourself enough so you don't need to complement it with someone else. Take care, you're clearly not alone!

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  124. Dear Ingrid, although I comment so far.. it is really comforting to know that we are not alone in this world who feel the same. Love is what we ALL need! Love is the food of soul:-)
    Hopefully will come soon..

    I do hope that you are feeling better.

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  125. Ingrid I think you are my solemate. I feel so alone. What is love?

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  126. I always believe that love comes when you least expect it! I believe your true love is there, just be patient! He's definitely worth the wait :) Good luck!!!

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  127. So beautiful written. Every word is so true and you will find it someday, don't lose your faith.

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  128. This entry hit me hard and deep - this is probaby one of the issues that still affect me from time to time, especially when close friends are getting married or attached to their special someone.

    I also long for a day when I can hold that someone's hand, take long strolls together, sharing things about our lives that may seem mundane but important to each other because everything about each other is important, and just spending time together and enjoying each other's company.

    A few months ago, I thought I found him. He was a very close friend, and things just happened rather quickly and it was very different from what I had experienced before. Unfortunately things ended as quickly as it started, and I was crushed when it happened, because my dream ended so fast and turned out to be a nightmare.

    But as time went by, the wounds healed and I've moved on. And now I'm just enjoying my life as it is and enjoying the perks of being single and available.

    I still believe in love, and want to love. And I think one day, you too will find it too. :)

    - E

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  129. I seriously love this blog.
    I feel just the same way that Ingrid does.
    I am loved by my family but it is time for me to find someone to start my own.
    I just can't seem to find the 'right' person.. Maybe I am too picky I don't know. I just can't be with someone if I don't deeply love them for what they are. =/

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  130. i want you love.

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  131. This was truly amazing! 140 comments says it all, you are not alone. That someone will find you, dont lose hope! Good Luck!

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  132. Thanks for writing this, it's so honest and beautiful. Thanks for pointing out what i've been battling with. Hope isn't the easiest thing to hold on to.

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  133. Every single word, is how I feel right now. Thank you for putting it so adequately, for expressing it in a much better way than I could have.

    Still, I'm going to wait and hang around. I think for every beautiful girl out there, there is always going to be a guy that she rightfully deserves - it's just a matter of whether they are found within our lifetime or not.

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  134. i'm getting shivers of this and tears in my eyes because all of your replies make me hopeful that i will as well experience this soon.

    thank you all.
    its not only the blog posts - which are extraordinarily amazing - but also the comments that make this site. i know i will not be able to get off this site today. thank you.

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  135. every single word in this post speaks my mind.

    out of the hundreds posts, yours attracted me to read it.

    i'm surrounded by the love my friends & family give, but i feel that i long for something more, just like you. & up to now, i'm still a loner deep down. hope you're not now

    cheers

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  136. This is the first time I've ever come across this blog, and as I read the other posts, I started to feel happy. But at the same time, I also felt a little sad that I've never had the chance to experience this kind of love. Then I saw your post and I had to comment.

    I feel like you've put into words exactly how I'm feeling. I've always had my family and friends too. When I was younger, it didn't matter to me. I was perfectly content to spend my time at home lost in my own little world. And while I've always been the kind of girl you'd refer to as a late bloomer, there were a number of boys I did have crushes on over the years. But I've always been shy and had low self-esteem, so I suppose that's what always held me back.

    But now, I feel like I'm stuck, longing for so many things I'm afraid I'll never have, like falling head over heels in love with an boy who would love me back. I'm probably just as guilty of imagining my own non-existent dream-boy, but even if he doesn't exist, I hope that someday I'll find a guy who's just as wonderful or someone unexpected who was the one I needed all along. And for you, I hope for the same.

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  137. i was lucky enough to experience this.... he's gone now but there are boys like this out there.... you just have to find them :)

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  138. Thank you, everyone for sharing, it helps so so much =)

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  139. I have to say I feel the same way,but don't lose your hope.If you find him,I'll have another reason to believe I will find someone as well.Have faith,for all of us.

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  140. I'm only 16 and I feel the same way, I try to be hopeful but everything around me makes me think love is never gonna happen to me :(

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  141. That's the story of my life. I keep on waiting... but he's not coming...

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  142. You took the words right out of my mouth.... It's comforting to know I am not the only girl who feels they are the last single person alive!

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  143. If "they" do exist, then why are all these beautiful women single and longing? The universe either smiles on you or it doesn't.

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