Monday, February 22, 2010

patience


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Our patience payed off.

We dated for a winter. It was real love. So powerful for both of us that we didn't know how to handle it. It got weird and she split in the spring. I didn't try to stop her. We were too young.

The next 8 years were self indulgent for us both. I thought of her sometimes, but it wasn't in the front of my mind because all that space was occupied with selfish thoughts. I dated plenty of other people. She dated plenty of other people. All of them were kept at arm's length. None of them mattered even though they thought they did.

Then we started talking again. She was still on the west coast; I was on the east. We got together for a weekend after all those years and it was more than we could have imagined. We simply hugged. The hug lasted for an hour. Her smell, her little moans, her skin, her lips, were all so reminiscent. It suddenly made sense why nothing had made sense for so long. We had truly found love before we were ready for it and now it had come back. So after a few more dates I asked her to marry me. She said yes before I finished asking.

We are so happy together. We both have a tremendous sense of pride for waiting and not settling. We have the kind of love that makes other people realize that they can do better. They can make themselves happy while making someone else happy too. We have the kind of love that books are written about and we feel so lucky to have led our lives in a way that nothing was done on a whim in our youth to fuck it up in the present. For us leaving it alone was the only way to save it, and now that it has come back around we are satisfied by how much we had to go through to get to here. This should be encouraging to everyone out there wondering if they have found it.

It may take longer than you want. The pain in the interim may seem unbearable. You may be tempted to settle on the way. You may think you have found it only to realize you are not sure. Outside pressure may push you in directions you are uncomfortable with. But, we are living proof that it does happen and it can happen to you too. Be strong and resilient. When it hits you it will knock you off of your feet and you will know that your patience paid off.

Mac and Ruby

82 comments:

  1. This could not be posted on a more perfect day... I'm going through an extremely similar experience right now. :) Patience definitely pays off. <3

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  2. by far my most favourite post here.

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  3. This is beautiful.
    Im in a situation myself, this is the only person Ive ever been with and ever want to be with, but we're parting our ways; moreover, he is parting his way. I cry every night and only hope that he will come back because he's everything to me.
    I hope that I will be as lucky as you two.
    You are truely blessed and thank you for sharing this, it touched me in a way that I cannot even explain

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  4. You know, i was almost tempted to not read this blog because recently having my heart broken, i didn't want to hear about anyone else's lame love story- but i read it and i'm actually grateful i did. It wasn't some sappy love story that rubbed it in my face but rather it gave me hope that maybe things will be okay in the end and one day i'll find someone who makes me as happy as you two make eachother. I really hope i do.

    Good luck and much love for you both.

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  5. this is sooo sooo romantic, i love it! and i would like it happend to me too! but i don´t want to wait too much time!.
    congratulations!

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  6. you are hope.
    this is love.
    honest.
    pure.
    patient love.
    i am beyond happy
    for the two of you
    xxo

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  7. Oh my goodness.
    This is by farrr the most beautiful post I've seen on Le Love.

    That's true love.
    Asking her to marry you after a few dates. :)

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  9. I've been in an on and off again relationship with the LOML for 9 years, and I'am 20 years old (sound crazy, I know lol) But it's ironic that today I woke up feeling as if I cant take us not being official anymore and we are going through a lot right now, this will seriously make or break us. I feel like I have been patient and I have gotten nowhere but reading this post, and knowing true love will wait a lifetime makes me feel as if I need to wait for however long it may take for us to come together again.... This post is one of my fav. Def. saving it to come back and read it again.


    Much Love.

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  10. This is beautiful--real, honest, hopeful (for those of us waiting & wishing). Makes me believe again, right when I was starting to lose my 'cinderella syndrome'

    I still do believe in fairy tales
    <3 And I am so happy you shared yours <3

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  11. This is beautiful. I needed this today. It makes me happy and cry in a goodway. x

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  12. this made my day (and the days coming)...

    I'm going through a similar experience right now, were my boyfriend (or I should say ex, because we broke up two days ago) is living in London and Athens, Greece and I live in Sweden - We're both young. But we know that this feeling, this love we have for each other is the one - as the writer described it - books are written about.

    We broke up two days ago, and I will not see him in four months. When I will were not sure if we're going to be together over the summer for two months or if we're going to be only friends to not complicate things even more. I will after the summer leave Greece to go to Sweden and study four years at the university. I thought that was a long time and I couldn't (and I still can't) think about how I will survive those four years by being "alive" without him. But if "Mac and Ruby" can eight years - I can four and even more - just to be with the greatest love of them all.

    Thank you so much for this.
    I believe now.

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  13. This is so sweet! Some good advice.. Congratulations! I don't want to wait toooo long ahah!!

    xx
    cayliek.blogspot.com

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  14. Thank you. I asked for sign. I think I got.

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  15. this is beyond beautiful.

    right now i have to wait. hope the patience pays off like it has for the two of you.

    if not... then it wasnt meant to be.

    just incredible. thanks for posting this!

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  16. I love this! It made me happy. I really really hope I find something similar one day.

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  17. this is SO beatiful :)

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  18. I think this is the most beautiful thing I've read in ages!

    http://loveandlifeinpictures.blogspot.com/2010/02/tell-me.html

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  19. asking her to marry you means that your love is real and strong...men usually hate marriage. what do they think about it? check here to know
    http://lovers-shore.blogspot.com/2010/02/on-wedding-day.html

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  20. This is a amazing story. Thank you for sharing.

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  21. i love this post, this line is hit home with me-"We had truly found love before we were ready for it and now it had come back." I think that I might have found it before we are both ready for it, I just hope we both have the patience to wait for us both to grow a little, then maybe we can find each other again. the only question i do have is, how on earth did you go on to date other people to move on (even though you weren't really), right now all i can think about is him, whilst knowing that now just isn't the right time.

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  22. Exactly what I need to keep me going for the days ahead. Congratulations, and thank you so much (: I'm really happy for you two

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  23. finally a post about true love with a happy ending :) it's posts like these that keep me searching patiently.


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  24. beautiful! i wish i'm that lucky. to find someone 8 years later and fall head over heels in love with her is perhaps the best feeling in the world!

    all the best and god bless!

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  25. thanks for touching my heart.
    this post has certainly given me plenty hope.

    i am too very thankful that my patience has been paid off. i spent years waiting for the one guy that will sweep me off while my friends were in & out of relationship.

    now i finally met a guy who loves me for who i am.
    we'll need greater patience to keep it going.

    all the best.

    feefee

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  26. oh gosh...this made me believe in signs. how perfect.

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  27. incredible! perfect for this rainy new york day when youth seems more a burden than necessary. thank you for sharing, it's refreshing to know that a love like that is real

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  28. Wow, I REALLY needed to hear this today.. This gave me hope, thank you so much for writing your story.. <3

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  29. So beautiful. Timing is everything. I just had all of that confirmed yesterday. The person I had been waiting for he's here now, and I'm here now and we are together. Patience indeed and worth every second. Thank you.

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  30. having felt the ache of waiting and wishing, that i have been feeling for so long, i feel better now. I am in (what i hope is) this middle stage you talk about here in this remarkable story, hoping that one day we continue right back were we started. i have been with him for 13 months and he is leaving to college, and when i even think about it, it truly begins to be difficult to breathe. He is me, but a man, a very strong intelligent man, and i am just that as well, but a woman. He is my bestfriend and my lover, knowing exactly what is on my mind just by judging my body language, which i can tell you, is most of the time rocket science. I love him with every bone and flesh in me. God, if you could feel what i am feeling, but hey...you do feel this. I really wish that one day I feel and have what you two have. But then again, having no expectations got me into this beautiful amazing relationship, that i do still believe i have with this person. No expectations what so ever, but just 13 months of bliss.

    you brightened my day.

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  31. i'm right where you were at the beginning of your story here. But he needs to leave me now. Going to teh west coast while i have to stay the east coast. We've been together a year, but we're only 19, still young!!!!
    BUT what do you do...i can't imagine not being with him for 8 years...it's the most painful thing i could ever imagine. if that neccesary if you're so madly in lvoe so young? do you need that time in between to work in the long run? he's been with many..i've only been with him...do i have to let him go awhile to have him again but that time forever?
    i don't know what to do. help someone.

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  32. I used to have patience. This story has inspired me to find it again. Thank you. <3

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  33. story of my right now.
    immensely comforting to find.

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  34. Stories like this, beautiful amazing honest stories like this are the real reason why I read this blog. It gives me hope. Love is out there!

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  35. I agree with the rest of the comments and I strongly felt the need to comment it too, though I won't be very original by saying that this is so beautiful. You are envy worth, you are really lucky!

    I'd like to know the story from the side of the girl... All these years..

    I WISH YOU THE BEST WITH ALL MY HEART:)

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  37. Waw... this is beautiful. I've never heard a same story, so romantic...
    Thanks to you, I trust in Love again.
    Thank you, thank you so much!
    xoxo

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  38. Im till waiting for this to happen to me, though i pretty much see this vision in my mind, with the love of my life i met 6 months ago, and still trying to move on, I guess i will have patience and 8 years from now, I will let you guy's know it if happened.

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  39. Im till waiting for this to happen to me, though i pretty much see this vision in my mind, with the love of my life i met 6 months ago, and still trying to move on, I guess i will have patience and 8 years from now, I will let you guy's know it if happened.

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  40. now this is a great love story.

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  41. Wow, this was incredibly beautiful and inspiring.

    The boy I am in love with is leaving soon for the Peace Corps for three years. I thought of it as a sign that I should move on, that he maybe isn't right for me. Even though, I know in my heart that I know he is my soulmate. When someone tells you that they have never felt more comfortable next to you than anyone else in the world, you know its true.

    This inspired me and is the most beautiful story I have ever read. I am an Undergraduate Student studying Classic Literature with a concentration in Marriage and Romance novels. This was simply wonderful; no one I have read (and I read a lot of authors) can write a story so wonderfully.

    I wish you the best. Thank you for giving me hope.

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  42. my lover and i also waited. we now experience the most amazing, loving, fulfilling and thrilling relationship - yes, the kind that makes others think they may be able to do better, too.

    i'm about to crawl into bed with him. we close on a house friday. life is indeed grand.

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  43. Okey, now I cry. This is so beautiful! My ex boyfriend have just got a new girlfriend, and I feel so useless. I love him, and hope this is going to happend to us. Thank you for a great story.

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  44. Oh fuck. That's the sweetest thing. I loved a boy, but now we're in different hemispheres. I think I think about him far too much for this to happen... But one can dream!

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  45. you give me hope for real love.
    thankyou.

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  46. This is absolutely beautiful & encouraging. Me & my boyfriend have been on and off for the past three years, and it's always been because we weren't ready to commit to each other permanently for the rest of our lives. We always end up together because we realize no one else is better for each other.
    This story gives me hope & shows me that it's okay to have a break away from each other. Not all love stories are the same fairytale story at first, and this is proof.

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  47. this is so cute. and im so glad u put it up. because i am waitng on someone. who i love with al my heart. <3
    thanks for the encouragement. <3

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  48. Gee,This post i simply beautiful and I so needed to read that.
    2 months ago I decided to go to Denmark to meet a guy who I've been talking for about 8 years online and it was the 5 most beautiful days of my life so far...I felt like I was complete for the first time in my life...I felt like trully loving him and I felt he loved me.
    Then I had to come back to my country (Brazil) and I'm so annoyed I'm so far and I miss him so effin much...and patience is all the world asks me, so I hope it pays off for me as it did for you.
    All the best!

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  49. Thank you, I needed this. I've been wondering if it's worth the wait...

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  50. Wow! This is so sweet..the both of u are just meant for each other.

    Congrats! ^.^

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  51. ahhh thats so sweet wish you guys all the best !

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  52. i hope my life turns out the same way. i really do hope so.

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  53. Waiting 8 years for each other; that kind of love and patience is so rare and incredible. This beautiful story gives me so much hope, thank you.

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  54. I loved every word in this post. It's true. Patience is key.

    This story hit home.

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  55. Omg thanks for writting this... u have no idea how it helps me. <3

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  56. What a great post. Its exactly what I needed to read and I hope the person I need to read it reads it too.

    .:A-ME:.

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  57. Well done. I enjoyed reading about your "adventure."

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  58. I found the blog in a day I wasn't very good about somethings... in a day I was kinda loosing some hopes... and then I saw your text, and it made me fell a lot better than I've been for some time... so thank you for sharing your story, I'm sure you'll help some other hopeless people like me with it!

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  59. my ex-fiance still seems to think we will get back together and our story will be similar to this.

    it won't be. he cheated, lied, manipulated and insulted. we will NEVER get back together.

    however, the love here is incredible and i wish it upon everyone in the world. i'm hoping i stumble across it one day.

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  60. This has spoken to me in ways you would not even begin to understand.

    Simply perfect.

    May I have the patience to believe in it also.

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  61. awhhh this is wonderful. Lovely and Beautiful

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  62. i love that post... a few years ago my bf broke up with me, he was the man of my life... he told me i was the girl to marry but that it was such a pity to meet so early, he needed to be with other girls blablabla...
    now i have another bf but nothing compared with HIM... i still think of him each and every day...we talk quite often, lately nearly every day...
    i hope that one day he will come back to me...

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  63. Everytime i am sad because of my ex, i come here and read this beatifull text. it gives me hope. love is patient!

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  64. What a beautiful true story.
    I am SO happy just to know that love like yours even exists, and I hope that one day I will have it too.
    I'm 19 and I've never even had a boyfriend because I've never, ever met a boy who respects himself enough to value anything that I value. I'd like a boy who believes in love and who I can have an undistracted conversation with about phiiosophy and literature and travel and life...who thinks he is lucky to have me.

    An impossibility? Probably.

    I should date Me. Anyone interested!?

    Thank you for your story, truly, and all the best for LIFE.

    alleycat275@hotmail.com

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  65. This is so perfect! I'm going through the same thing right now (recently reconnected with a love from 4 years back...we're different people now, but better than ever!) and can't wait to meet with in person again...Hopefully will have a happy ending such as this!

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  66. ill try 2 wait but its hard. but ill try

    xoxo shari

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  67. you have given me hope. :)

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  68. I was able to get my ex back after I followed the instructions at www.saveabreakup.com I totally recommend this site, saveabreakup.com helped me a lot, all I can say is big THANKS!!! I'm so happy now...

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