Tuesday, October 13, 2009

i'm falling out of love.


lorelix04

I used to wait for you. Days would go by before I got a text or a hello, but I was so elated to finally hear from you that I ignored all the signs.

I forgot that I deserve better. I forgot that I actually need someone who's going to uplift and adore me, worship me, love me completely, just as I loved you. But I'll never get that from you.

I'll never get the sweet note or that hug or the awkward hand holding. I'll never be able to hold you again, to kiss you and run my fingers along your collar bone; you're simply too cruel. I can't deal with the insensitivity and the cutting jokes. I can't deal with the degrading behavior you're so trapped in.

You're sorry? Well that's wonderful, but I don't want apologies. I want a change in behavior, a change in character, and I'm not going to ask that of you because I know you too well. This is who you are, this is how you are, and I'm not supposed to try and change that. I'm accepting you as You, and moving on.

I'm falling out of love.

-anonymous

87 comments:

  1. This made me cry, because I found out I was falling out of love just a few days ago. I guess some relationships are better left alone and unrepaired because a lot of people in this world are completely negative and selfish and don't deserve our love.

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  2. Im feeling you babe.. Im falling out of love to here.. Im trying all ways and methods to make him stay but i realized all my effort has gone to waste.. he wants to be left alone and gone..

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  3. Good for you. Really. Good for you. The wisest thing I've ever heard: "I'm accepting you as You, and moving on."

    How true is it, that sometimes accepting someone means understanding that he/she does not belong in your life.

    So wise. Good for you.

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  4. this is so appropriate to my life... this really was well said. i know the exact feeling. i am falling out of love.

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  5. it's not easy to expel someone out of your heart with words...

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  6. "I'll never get the sweet note or that hug or the awkward hand holding. I'll never be able to hold you again, to kiss you and run my fingers along your collar bone; you're simply too cruel."

    Going through that too, with all the different reasons, but with the same result.

    You're simply too cruel, I love/hate/intensely-feel that.

    It's not easy to expel someone out of your heart with words, but we try.

    Humans often try their best to accept, adapt, and move on.

    We have to move on.

    I hope I fall out of love soon too.

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  7. how do you fall out of love with someone? thats cruel and its not right. its a beautiful and wonderful feeling to love and be love. and yet they want you to fall out of love.

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  8. This happened to me too. I had to tell myself that i deserved better too, and looking back, I realize it was best that we both moved on.

    great post

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  9. nice.
    good for you.
    we all deserve someone better.
    some who know our worth:)

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  10. exactly how i feel. i do deserve better, or i want to believe that.

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  11. This could not have been posted at a better time. 10 minutes ago I realized that I had finally gotten over my last love. He treated me awfully and I knew but ignored it. I feel so liberated so while I read this poem now and smile, I know that at some points, I'll read it and want to cry. Luckily I feel elated at this moment and even though the moment may pass, at least I know that I do deserve better and that there are other guys out there who would love to treat me better.

    I've spent too many weeks stressing and worrying about our collapsing relationship. It's time to move on. I've shed enough tears and stared off into space for too many hours.

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  12. girl, I can so relate

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  13. so sincere & so touching. this made me realize that i, too, am falling out of love.

    xo-

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  14. Amen. I know. It's such a sad frustration.

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  15. i know we don't know each other, but i'm so proud of you for moving on. it's the hardest thing to ever do, i went through that as well and it's the worst and most difficult thing to admit.

    and to realise and understand that you deserve better wow.

    congradulations and i hope you find that special someone

    x.o kaz

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  16. oh gosh this is so good. I teared up. (': I just realize, just now that this is how I feel. and this is called falling out of love. thank you for making me realize.

    www.loverandme.blogspot.com

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  17. This almost made me cry. I hate waiting for your texts or for you to care first. There is only so many times that you can break your own heart before you begin to fall out of love. The fact that the person I love so much has NO idea just how much I care, has been breaking my heart, and I know now that I need to accept you for you and not the person I so wanted you to be. Your just a page in my book that will always be unwritten no matter how hard I try, although I will always still live with the hope. Just because Im falling out of love with you doesn't mean I don't care, Because I truly do, I just love you in a different way now.

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  18. I truly admire how Le Love brings out both good and bad sides of loving and FALLING in (and out) of love.

    Long time reader/follower, first time commenter.
    I had to comment on this one,
    It hit a place close to home.

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  19. Oh wow. This is so wonderfully terrible.

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  20. I hear you fully! sometimes we jst want love and be loved rather than waiting like a moron. I'm going through wut u're going through as well. but I dnt knw hw to handle it just as yet.

    I'm jst hoping things will be alrite.
    and good luck to you whoever u are. :)

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  21. I was like that anonymous a year a go. You are great, I love reading these. I can find myself so often in these.

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  22. I like this story, though it's not cute or romantic. It's real and hopeful.

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  23. this story fits perfectly in my life right now.

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  24. Sometimes it is better to fall out of love than to keep being in love when you know it is not good for you. I am really trying to fall out of love for someone but I just can't do it, I know it is no good and it will hurt if I keep loving... but I can't help being in love.

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  25. Oh god.. i think i cried. This is just too true right now. In the same time I'm so happy reading it, cause it makes me think I'm not the only one feeling like this, and that I'm doing the right thing.
    Thank u.

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  26. I feel you anonymous... but sometimes its not just to be blamed on another party... sometimes we hafta take a look at ourselves... like me for an instant... I can't show my love to my gurl like before... I don't have d confidence in me as before in d beginning we coupled... its due to her blaming on me... criticizin on me... n findin fault on me... this slowly took away al the best part of me n left me with nothin... n yet she comes n asks me to be like who i was before... i couldn't open my mouth n tell her that it was caused by her... cause it'll hurt her badly... n neither could i climb back up 2 who i was before... wheneva i climb up... der'l b smthin which goes wrong it'l bring me bak down... i asked her to b my motivation... she ended up complainin 2 me even more... but yet i just couldn't stop loving her... but she is blind from what she has caused... n neither do i know how 2 tell her... so u c... its not al the time its caused by the other party... sometimes it could be ourselves... but i'm nt blaming it on you... just want you 2 take 1 step behind u... and look back at the whole picture from the beginning til the ending... you mite find smthing which went wrong terribly...

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  27. oh, i dont know what to say.... <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

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  28. wow its crazy how im going through exactly that im falling out of love an i know its going to hurt but you can't make a person into something that there not, and in my situation i can't change him .If they don't treat you the way you know you should then there is no reason to stay. i feel better now knowing im not the only one going through this at this point and time thanks anonymous

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  29. I'm in the waiting to hear from you days.

    I can't express how sad it is to feel like it's over before it's even begun.

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  30. this hit closer to home than i can even put to words. everything feels as if it were writtin from my heart yet read through my eyes instead. beautiful, sad, real..

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  31. WOW...I have some friends I need to send over here...beautiful/sad well written..

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  32. I know exactly what you mean! I have it also going on for 2 years, saying goodbye is so hard.. But I know I deserve better just like you say. Thanks i love your blog

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  33. it hurts to read this, and it hurt because suddenly it all seems so clear. too clear.

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  34. I know exactly how this is. I don't like to say I am falling out of love, but lets face the facts, I am, and I don't know how to deal with it. Yesterday was my boyfriend and I's one year. Can you believe that. Not one phone call nothing, I didn't hear from him at all. I talked to his brother more then I talked to him. All of my friends even wished us a Happy Anniversary, but I don't even get it from the person that wishes matter the most. I honestly don't know what to do. Because he never use to be like this, but his cuteness and the way he said my name they way he held my hand.. it just changed, all of it. I know what you are going through, I know the pain. But you can't change anyone only yourself, and if he isn't offering then all you can do is move on. You will fall in and out of love a million times. It sucks. But thats just how it is. Cruel

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  35. This reminds me of something my sister would have said to her abusive husband when she took her baby girl and ran away from Las Vegas. She has never looked back. I love my sister. I am so glad she had the courage to fall out of love and begin living again :)

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  36. i lov lov lov that. i think i cried.

    <333

    your blog is amazing, i lov read it. i go in everyday to look, if you write new note <3

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  37. To Cavalier: I completely understand where you're coming from... My boyfriend constantly shoots whatever I say down. If I express curiosity about the world around me, he snaps "Why must you ask so many questions?!" If I talk about the community service/charity work I sometimes do, he gets angry because I'm "trying to make him feel guilty." If I talk about my daydreams and hopes, he says that I'm "weird," and encourages me to be more "normal." Yet he says he feels hurt because I'm "not showing him my true self"? Um... What? It kind of makes me want to laugh, but cry, at the same time.

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  38. My problem is even though I know he's bad for me and doesn't treat me the way I deserve to be treated, I always fall back in love with him, I always love him and I feel like I always will.

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  39. This made me cry. :( It's what I'm going through right now and I really miss him.

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  40. This is so beautiful
    Visit my bran new love blog
    www.mysentimentalfever.blogspot.com

    :)

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  41. I really needed this. Thank you. I keep convincing myself that it will be better each time, but it doesn't get better. It's just the same shade of the same. A small gesture (such a flirty text) from him amounted to winning the lottery. He leaves me and then he comes back when he's in need of an emotional crutch. He's hot and then he's cold. But I convince myself that he's just going through a rough patch, that he just needs to be by himself. Deep down inside I know that is just the way he is, but it's hard connecting your mind with your heart.

    Thank you.

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  42. The first two paragraphs, I can relate. I could even hear myself saying those words out loud a few months ago, when I didn't want to let go of a man I thought I loved and whom I thought deserved my love. But time kicks in and you realize that you begin to accept what is no longer there and you begin to heal. And one day when you are all better, heal and whole you meet someone and you know he can give you what you deserve. When you are hurt, when your heart is broken is very hard to know your worth but as time goes by you know what shit you won't put up with anymore. You grow a thicker skin.
    I have walked that walk and I was happy to be by myself and then I met someone and I can share who I am with him.

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  43. I just wish that I could be as brave

    xxo

    alostvintagehippie.blogspot.com

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  44. it's so sad that this has been the story of most of our lives.

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  45. wow. excellent understanding. powerful.

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  46. I'm in this situation, I need to feel this. I need to accept that he won't change. I know this, just deep down I don't want to believe it. I deserve better and I know that, but I still want him.

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  47. SOOOOOOOOOO TRUE! i am only starting to be as strong as you, i've only finally just realized that i need to stop lying to myself that one day he'll love me as much as i love him. i need to remind myself that that'll never happen. i need to push myself out of love.

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  48. To Anonymous: I understand how you feel like... sometimes she calls me being weird... actually every1 calls me weird... but in d beginning she showed interest on the way i was n then suddenly she changed n started tellin I'm weird... in the beginning she'll tell this... "you're weird... I likey" n the way she tells it just makes me wanna hug her n kiss her... but as time past by... from likey... i dunno what it has turned into... but i remember this saying... "Once you can laugh at your own weaknesses, you can move forward." guess I'll just laugh at my own weakness and continue moving forward... just trying my best to be the best for her... tho as time passes by... she's hurtin me more... i have no idea y I aint leavin her... may b I'm just too death in love with her... *haiz*

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  49. This text is brilliant! I'm so glad I read it!

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  50. amen.

    amen amen amen amen amen.

    - lauren xoxo

    laurennicolelove.blogspot.com

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  51. EXACTLY how i felt today. it made me cry ):

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  52. I'm going through the same exact situation and I wish and hope I'll get to the point where you are soon. Good luck to you and all who posted and said they're in the same boat. It's nice to know we are not alone.

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  53. Well hello tears,
    Distance made me cry
    I thought I was finally through all the pain, and so over him now I realize he's still in my heart but so far away, Can't find it..

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  54. Wow. this is the story of my life right now. you've expressed in words everything that i've been feeling for the past...5 months. i'm still trying to fall out of love. hopefully it will happen sooner rather than later.

    thanks for this, and all your other postings. they're amazing.

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  55. that's so right.
    when it has to end we must accept it, it's not easy, but we have to.

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  56. Oh Gosh. Word.
    "Words that aren't mine. Stripped from my tongue, heart, mind. All of it so real. But not mine, the words. Wish they were. Because all of that is real, all of it is me."

    It's beautiful that you remembered. That you deserve better. I remembered too. After a while. And I accepted him as him, and moved on. As well.

    Congratulations. You're worth every bit of it.

    xoxo Muah

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  57. I just wanted to say that the last comment was me.

    "Oh Gosh. Word......"

    My comment.

    Thanks.

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  58. Oh gosh you took the words right out of my mind and onto this blog.

    I did exactly this a few months ago and its truely a relief.

    Know exactly how this feels and you put it into words perfectly.

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  59. I couldn't say it better myself!

    just how I felt last month!

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  60. The moment I read this, I knew I had to share this. I've been stuck in a rut for a year. I haven't gotten over that person who broke my heart into a million pieces and it's been a year and when I read this...

    I did forget that I deserve someone better.

    I've already accepted him as HIM. And now, I think it's finally time to move on.

    And just like you, hopefully, I will fall out of love :)

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  61. wow i just wrote a poem about this check out my blog.

    http://ashleyslaundary.blogspot.com/

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  62. i can relate. i wish i couldnt but i can.
    i am trying to fall out of love. i am trying so hard,its not easy though.

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  63. i can relate. i wish i couldnt but i can.
    i am trying to fall out of love. i am trying so hard,its not easy though.

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  64. LOVE THIS.

    so refreshing to see a post like this. i'm trying to fall out of love with my ex and it's slow going but good to know that other people can do it.

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  65. this made me cry.
    i realised its something someone would write about me. i am cruel and i dont even even know how to change.

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  66. i can totally relate

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  67. well, i dont know what he did to you but i feel the same way.... i can never forgive him.... i ma suffering as much as you and no commucication between us, and that was my husband im talking about.... you should read my blog and will understand... diva1156.blog.com

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  68. Hey girl,
    I understand you completely. Sometimes we are so blinded by certain aspects of people that we completely disregard the bad ones. Nothing can convince us, we are swept up in what we see, which isn't always right.
    I'm happy for you.
    Stay strong.

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  69. You almost made me cry... I know the feeling, I can so relate. I broke up with this guy that you describe so well in your text three days ago.. He was my first big love but I knew from the start that he wasn't good for me. It took six months to finally realize that, for real, and leave him for good. "I want a change in behavior, a change in character, and I'm not going to ask that of you because I know you too well. This is who you are, this is how you are, and I'm not supposed to try and change that. I'm accepting you as You, and moving on"

    That's the only right thing to do. Move on.

    We deserve so much more, we deserve better than that.

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  70. this makes my heart cry, i feel you though, sturggling through that pain is never somethign you should force yourself to endure. im sure youll find someone for you, a better person. some one to love you for You.
    thank you for posting

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  71. I fell out of love like this, it broke my heart.

    You're right though, you deserve better. Best wishes for the future

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  72. i feel like the other side in this party. constantly hurting my partner and making him go through stress for me on purpose. i feel cruel and needy for attention in the worst ways, not in the loving ways. i don't know if it's because i love him or because i don't love him, that it might be best to step away and get better on my own. because i don't want to keep doing this to him, like your guy did to you, perhaps unwillingly, perhaps blindly...but nonetheless, he did it. i don't want to hurt him. he's been so good to me. by my side always. he doesn't deserve it and i want to give the best love to him. i'm not sure if that's because i love him or because i care for people in general. or because i don't want him to fall out of love with me and realize what you realized. maybe i don't want to lose him because i need him so much, i'd rather just leave him first? who knows. i'm sorry this became about me and steered away from your post. it's brave of you to change and realize the reality of the situation at hand. and perhaps it will be better for you both.

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  73. Well I've beengoing thru this too, a year or less of bliss and then two yrs of on again off again, " I love u " "let's try again" and then the constant " I can't commit" . The last time she ditched me saying that she couldn't do a relationship and two weeks later jumped into a relationship with another guy :( . Yet still I loved her, still she txted me occasionally and I convinced myself she loved me too. I know I deserve better, I need to fall out of love with her. She has effected my mental health. Love is a bitch sometimes huh

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  74. This was me three months ago. I couldnt understand my bf. He never texted first. I wasted on international phone calls calling him. He was always busy studying and stuff. One time he hurt me with his words and i said enough was enough. I was so ready to move on because I knew I deserved better, I missed my bf how he was before I left.

    But our situation was different, ours became a LDR. i didn't text him for 2 days and he was desperate because yeah, he finally realized what on earth he was doing. i couldn't not forgive him. It's just that we people have different ways of dealing with new situations that we dont like.

    All I'm saying is, for some people, love might really have been lost, or that the person really changed, or that the person you love is just coping with something.

    It's just important that you, yourself, when you need to say enough, say enough, before you break, and if your partner snaps back to reality, then good you can ask for a change if the person is willing, if not, then sorry for that person, think about yourself.

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  75. I loved my bf so much, I was crazy for him. I kept on putting up with his crap because I cared so much. Now suddenly I have no feelings for him. I want to so badly because of what we once had and he's freaking out and trying to fix it. I'm breaking his heart because for some reason I can't feel anything around him anymore... I feel horrible and completely confused. What do I do?

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  76. tell him, be honest , the things you are attracted too are probably still there, he just needs to find them again. He will be trying too hard at the moment and pushing you further away. :)

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  77. I hate to admit that I am having trouble falling out of love with my ex. We dated for two years, and it has been about a year since she left me. I know that I was the stable one in the relationship, and that I should feel happy to have her gone, but I am not. She was constantly jealous, and I cannot recall a time that I ever was. She needed daily reassurance and attention, which I gave and asked nothing in return. When she had a problem, no matter how small (and there was a lot of overreacting on her part), I was there to listen and assist. Yet the one time I was placed into a situation where i needed her to be there for me, she leaves. Then after a month or so I try to talk to her and she tells me that she is already seeing someone and it has started to get serious.

    I have done everything i can think to get over her. I began paying attention to the girls that were into me while I was taken, but everyone that i took out or slept with just made me miss her more. I know i deserve better, but she wasn't like any of the others, she was my best friend, and I feel betrayed, but still cannot hate her no matter how much I want to. I guess two years for her doesn't mean anything, but it certainly meant something to me. Huha I guess I am a fool, and wont make that mistake again.

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  78. I can totally relate. Powerful story.

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  79. i've gone through this exact thing. this is worded beautifully and put things in perspective. sometimes your best is simply not enough and when it's not, they don't deserve you. i'm learning the hard way and i've realised sometimes it's best to just let go..however hard it is.

    sometimes you forget what you deserve and latch onto what you crave.

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  80. Ok now my situation is different...Im falling out of love but i dont want to...hes trying to please me and make me happy but he does it in ways that arent the right way for me...I feel like we are more enemies then lovers...But i love him as a person but my emotional love has faded...But i want to get that connection back...

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  81. Well written.

    I think a more accurate description, for me, is Crawling out of love, not falling. It's easy to fall in love, but it's sometimes very difficult to crawl back out.

    I think if you fall out, as easily as you fall in, you didn't fall far.

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